Day 6 of NC ...

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2004
Day 6 of NC ...
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:16pm

Ok well I've made it thru 6 days of NC.

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Registered: 02-09-2010
In reply to: allismom8
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:29pm

You will get through this...day by day. The trick is to NOT give in...just that once or wham, you're back at square one all over again.

My MM was across the US for two weeks and during it, I was like..hey, I can walk away! I deleted his number too and didn't email much. I allowed myself to see him again and then it was all over. It's the great sex that keeps me coming back. If ONLY my H would pick up the pace just a bit but after 19 years, not happening. So here I am.

Consequently, it's looking like MM is taking a job across the pond soon so that would quash everything. I hate the thought, but I also hope it's what inevitably happens.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-12-2010
In reply to: allismom8
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:28pm

I'm glad to hear that you are hanging in there. Sounds like you have a full and good life. One good thing is that you are single, so you are available to find love and companionship. When you are ready it will come. And make a vow to yourself to stay away from MM, even the ones on the verge of separation.


P.s. - I have a hunch that he will call you again eventually. It may not be for the right reasons, but I think he will. Hopefully you will feel strong enough to resist.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:11am

Good for you! You're doing great. It's actually a good thing he hasn't contacted you, if you really want to get free of this. Have you thought about how you'll handle it if he does contact you?

As for the married men - they feel people out a bit. Won't approach someone who doesn't appear "open" to an approach - it would be too dangerous and could get back to their W if a woman took offense. So you might be doing something that makes them think you're "open" to something. Flirting maybe? Looking at them if they're cute? Things that you do innocently can come across as an "invitation". The trick is to always act "normal friendly", not flirtatious, and never keep looking at a guy who's cute, but married. Just act uninterested and they won't approach.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2004
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:50am

Hi Owl, I am trying

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Registered: 07-12-2004
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 8:57am

Hi Lexi,

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2004
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 9:02am

No I can't give in even once because I'll get sucked back in .. you're absolutely right.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2010
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:57pm

Hi alli


well done for getting through these past few

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2010
In reply to: allismom8
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 4:34pm

Hi Allismom,


I think you are doing great for day 6 of NC. I think you should start posting at EAS. I've read there forums and they seem like wonderful ladies there. I know your hurting and I wish I was as strong as you right now to not have contact but I admire that so much about you. Please continue to go NC, keep busy and expand your social network. I'm sure someone who is truly deserving of you will come along. I also believe he will contact you again whether it be in a few days, weeks or months and hope as the days go on that you become stronger and can resist him.


Wishing you much peace & strength!


 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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