day three NC

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Registered: 05-14-2009
day three NC
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Sun, 06-21-2009 - 12:04am

Well, today make three whole days with no contact from my ex-AP.

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 2:01am

I have to ask what country you are in. And I have to also ask you to please focus on YOU. Start looking for a place to move to, or have that talk with your h and get him to move out. STAY AWAY from your xap. There is nothing about borders that will keep him from physically hurting you. He's a dangerous man and you should avoid him at all costs. Honestly, since he knows where you live now, I'd want to move, and if memory serves me, you don't have children.

Good for you to avoid calling him today, NC sucks. You can do this. Focus on YOU. Keep thinking about what it would be like to have him "clean the floor with your face" really focus on that one statement, and the fact that he beat his previous lover badly. FOCUS, he's dangerous, stay away stay away stay away! Stay strong, you can do this!

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Registered: 05-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 9:14am

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 10:58am

I'm glad you are working on resolving things in your M. I know d sucks, but sounds like you and h have a workable plan. Be sure you get stuff in writing. In my state, the papers can be drawn up by either party and if they both sign in agreement, things go much faster and smoother, and it's a lot less expensive. Just be SURE what you are signing before you do.

Stand your ground. Every day with no contact from him is a day that makes you stronger. I'm glad your kiddo is a big kid, not a toddler, that will actually make things easier for you with your xap.

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Registered: 11-12-2008
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 11:33am

next time chose a guy carefully!

this guy is a nut case,honestly.how crazy a guy can be,huh? you cant change your number as he will find it out as he knows your home w/o you telling him.he seems to be obsessed over you.be careful before it turns into fatal attraction!!

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Registered: 05-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Sun, 06-21-2009 - 2:48pm
Yes, I will chose carefully and stay away from
“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 05-27-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 2:39am

You can do this! Stay strong. He isn't worth you missing him. He sounds like he has some major issues - none of which you want to subject yourself to anymore.


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Registered: 05-14-2009
In reply to: galcurve
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 2:42pm

Thank you for your encouraging words.. Today make five days with no contact..

“"Truer words were never spoken -" Ah, but true words leave hearts broken! Truth is only for the wise - Lovers ought to stick to lies”

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Registered: 11-13-2008
In reply to: galcurve
Mon, 06-22-2009 - 2:54pm
This A is such a good example of not leaving a M for an AP.you dont want to go from a bad H to another abusive man.yikes! you are in trouble,gal.from what you have posted so far,your AP is here to stay as i guess,he is very well aware of how to melt your heart and getting you sucked in.
you might want to get a restraining order for him.