I am sorry for you (((( hugs)))). I know dday sucks.You dont have any control on if your AP moves on and decides to work on his M. how he 'supports' you during this time is a huge factor to consider.My AP had a dday ( i am S ) but he stood with me , his W was mean to me but he is soon heading for D inspite of her trying to work on their M.
To be 'told' by someone that it was not love,is wrong.Its you who knows what it was.
I am sorry for you.but would suggest to give your M a go with no AP.you never know what you will end up feeling -- you still love H and your A fog lifts! A fog doesnt lift with being in LC/NC with AP.
i'm glad you acknowlege you are having a hard time convincing your heart of that..because you will never be able to convince your heart and soul of that....and i'm sorry babe..it just is what it is....
don't be mad at the situation at all...just think about it...don't let it consume you though.....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
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I think carriedaway is right; you need to try to stop beating yourself up over things and simply focus on the act of healing.
i waited out NC, it only lasted us a week, we decided to be friends only no IC.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
I agree... my H cannot tell me what I feel and don't feel.
It sounds like your true goal, in that case, would be for your husband to be made aware of the bigger picture, and the part he plays in that picture.
conflicted,
I am sorry for you (((( hugs)))). I know dday sucks.You dont have any control on if your AP moves on and decides to work on his M. how he 'supports' you during this time is a huge factor to consider.My AP had a dday ( i am S ) but he stood with me , his W was mean to me but he is soon heading for D inspite of her trying to work on their M.
To be 'told' by someone that it was not love,is wrong.Its you who knows what it was.
I am sorry for you.but would suggest to give your M a go with no AP.you never know what you will end up feeling -- you still love H and your A fog lifts! A fog doesnt lift with being in LC/NC with AP.
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Edited 11/25/2008 9:29 pm ET by tygerzize
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"Time and distance may provide clarity, but love, if true, is never lost."
i agree with the above, and i know from recent experience...
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
i'm glad you acknowlege you are having a hard time convincing your heart of that..because you will never be able to convince your heart and soul of that....and i'm sorry babe..it just is what it is....
don't be mad at the situation at all...just think about it...don't let it consume you though.....
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
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