de facto separation ???

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Registered: 06-12-2010
de facto separation ???
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 2:30am

So tell me what you think about this:


My AP has a terrible marriage(according to him) lots of fighting in front of the kids, anger, etc. His W also picks arguments with him in front of her family( I guess so she can have an audience while she tears him a new one) I understand that this is all from his point of view. I also know from experience that he can be trying at times and I can see how he probably gets on his wife's nerves(he sure gets on mine sometimes). I also know that I will never truly understand what has gone on in their 20+ years of marriage. Ok with that said....


I think my AP and his wife are separated. She has only been home once or twice in the last 4 weeks.

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Registered: 03-29-2010
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 9:10am

Don't celebrate too soon, for sure. And think about the reason you're celebrating - most likely because you want him to be free. But, will his being free mean that he's "yours"? Lots of steps before a true celebration lol.

You haven't said if you're married or single, pm_owl. You do seem to have a good head on your shoulders and know that what he tells you is only his side. Time will tell if his being free is truly something to celebrate - his wife might be celebrating too, if they're getting separated!

Keep us updated, and keep posting...

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Registered: 06-12-2010
Thu, 06-24-2010 - 1:18am

Oh no, not celebrating. I dont think its good to celebrate the end of a marriage.


I was just wondering out loud.


I am married and recently separated. I use to post under ampm but I forgot my password and had to make a new account.