I'm not sure I'm the right one to answer this, or if I even can, but I'll give it a try.
AP and I have been seeing each other since the start of this year. We share a lot of stuff together and have an incredibly strong connection. We also have bucketloads of chemistry. We have not had IC, but we do everything else. I am in love with AP, he is M, I am separated. It is only due to his guilt issues and religious beliefs that we have not gone further. I understand the emotional pull. It is unbelievably strong. I think it's likely that if you keep seeing each other, while experiencing that kind of emotional connection and sexual chemistry, that it is almost guaranteed that the line will be crossed one day.
I guess what you need to ask yourself, is that if the line is crossed, is it really worth it for you? Are you prepared for the consequences of d-day, on your side and his? Is he worth having your M completely break up, because it could happen.
Maybe it's me, but if you think that you can deal w/ the fact that he will never leave his W, then I say go for it, but only because your already there. I would never recommend that some one purposely sabotage their M w/ an A, but I do know what it's like to live in a house full of people and feel so alone. I began to despise my husband so much that I avoided family things, like time w/ my kids, because I just couldn't stand to look at him. I also know what it feels like to have an engaging conversation w/ that special someone that gives your heart those fuzzie feelings, so you'll not hear me judge. I know that EVERYONE needs love, and attention, and made to feel special, and when that is lacking it really does a number on you as an individual, and a whole. You have to do what is best for you and your children, but I think there are a lot of things in this world worse than an EA, but ultimately you have to choose. Just remember you can't un-ring the bell, once you have fallen......well, you already know.
I guess what you need to ask yourself, is that if the line is crossed, is it really worth it for you? Are you prepared for the consequences of d-day, on your side and his? Is he worth having your M completely break up, because it could happen
Hi and welcome to the board.
I'm not sure I'm the right one to answer this, or if I even can, but I'll give it a try.
AP and I have been seeing each other since the start of this year. We share a lot of stuff together and have an incredibly strong connection. We also have bucketloads of chemistry. We have not had IC, but we do everything else. I am in love with AP, he is M, I am separated. It is only due to his guilt issues and religious beliefs that we have not gone further. I understand the emotional pull. It is unbelievably strong. I think it's likely that if you keep seeing each other, while experiencing that kind of emotional connection and sexual chemistry, that it is almost guaranteed that the line will be crossed one day.
I guess what you need to ask yourself, is that if the line is crossed, is it really worth it for you? Are you prepared for the consequences of d-day, on your side and his? Is he worth having your M completely break up, because it could happen.
Pisces
Oh, I know all-to-well that you can't un-ring the bell!
Camperchik
I guess what you need to ask yourself, is that if the line is crossed, is it really worth it for you? Are you prepared for the consequences of d-day, on your side and his? Is he worth having your M completely break up, because it could happen
I've asked myself that a million times.
Camperchik