Decisions, Decisions and a Mr. X update

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Registered: 10-05-2012
Decisions, Decisions and a Mr. X update
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Fri, 10-19-2012 - 2:05pm
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Registered: 10-13-2012
Fri, 10-19-2012 - 4:28pm

Just curious if you have any children?  I am also young so I get where you are coming from.  I am just like you on the not wanting to be lonely and wanting my cake and eating it too Smile  At the time being I am not feeling any guilt at all, maybe it will come around to me.  Before I was married I was in a relationship where he thought everyone I was hanging out with I was hooking up with!  So I know how you feel.  It wasnt fun at all.  I always felt like I was doing something wrong when I (for once) was doing NOTHING!  I think that can really push you away from him and drive you closer to your AP.  Im guessing your AP is single?  Mine is too. Not sure if this reply is even helpful at all!  But my advice is follow your heart.  You can't be afraid of being alone (easier said than done, right?)  And if you have a jealous husband and an AP you must have something going for you so you probably wouldnt be lonely for long Wink

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Registered: 10-13-2012
Fri, 10-19-2012 - 9:47pm
Yeah having a single AP that is always avaliable is great but then theres also the other side of that where they can go out and have the freedom to do what they want! Thats the only part I dont like about it! I am the same way, where I forget about everything else when I am with him also. Its a pretty unreal feeling. I guess there is always the chance that he does like a girl who is unattainable but also dont sell yourself short maybe he honestly does like you and would like you even more if you were single! But I get it, it is very hard. Life changing. I do have kids and I have been married 5 years. I honestly never saw myself in a situation like this. He isnt a jealous person or anything just not affectionate or attentive which I guess you could say I am needy in those categories :)
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Registered: 10-05-2012
Sat, 10-20-2012 - 6:05pm

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