To DeeDee

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To DeeDee
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 11:22am
I read many threads where you have responded....

Girl- you are give great advice and I can relate soooo much of it to my life.

I just wanted to say "Thanks".

V. :-)

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In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:05pm
V

Thank you that was a nice thing to say. We all seem to know the right thing to do in OTHERS situations... just how good we are at taking our own advice is yet to be determined.

I'm on my downward decent right now because it has been one week since I emailed mm and told him how I feel. He tried to get us together on Tues and I tried on Thurs with no luck. Now this is the last week he is in town before he leaves for two weeks and I so want to see him before he goes. I called this morning .... went right to vm and left a message about a business question, but haven't heard from him. I'm not sure if we will talk about the email when we see each other or not, but I would love to just be with him before he goes, but I won't call him again.

See? I'm pretty pitiful, any advice for me????


:)

dd

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Registered: 02-22-2004
In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:31pm
DD-

You need to wait girl for him to get back to you. You called- ball is in his court now. He remembers the email, I'm sure of it from first hand experience. My MM eluded to something last Monday in an email I sent a month ago telling him about being sick and how I felt about him. So, don't worry- your OM knows.

NOW- how he will approach you on this is something I can't tell you because I don't know his 'style'- only you do.

However, you seem to be a very confident and re-assured person AND as many on this board have told me, if you want to know, you need to ask him. However #2, if you are uncomfortable, just enjoy the time you will spend with him before he's off for the two weeks. Savor the moment, and if the oppty presents itself to discuss the email- so be it. You will know only then what to do and say.

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v.

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Registered: 01-03-2004
In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:45pm
Dear Deedee,

Yes, I have advice for you. Keep doing exactly what you're doing.

If the first thing he did after that e-mail was try to make plans to see you, then I'd call that a positive response. Since your posts are thoughtful and well expressed, I'm sure your e-mail was as well.

And let me second vles compliments. Your advice is caring and supportive, while still being logical. We appreciate your presence on this board. Keep us posted and let us know what we can do to help.

::crossing fingers, toes and eyes that MM gets together with you this week::

Or, as Juliet used to say ::waving magical fingers...POOF!::





Cazrida

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In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 1:51pm
V

I won't ask him about the email. If I know him he will ask a question about another part of the email that was more benine. Like what songs remind me of him or something. I just get frustrated with him because he makes his own schedule and he totally overschedules himself. His love of $ is probably at the top of his list, he has put himself in a spot where I would assume he HAS to make a lot to pay for everything. So after work, and family.... there I am. I understand but yet when it gets to be 3 weeks since we've seen each other and the next week is all we have until he is gone for another 2 weeks, I start to feel VERY neglected and not too special at all.

And I guess after the email I am anxious to be with him

whaaa whaaa whaaa! LOL

dd

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In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 2:50pm
I hear ya. I am hoping to get together for lunch (as boring as that sounds) with my MM this Friday. Our last date was back in the end of April so for me, I know EXACTLY how anxious you are ( and my MM and I, as you know, have never had IC). But I still miss him so very much.

Hang in there DD and keep me posted on this. If tou want, I can be also be reached at ves@email.com. Private email that H does not know about.

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In reply to: vles64
Mon, 05-24-2004 - 4:43pm
Thanks Caz!

That is just what I wanted to hear. :) I appreciate your kind words and if I have to say so myself the email was well thought out, it took me over 30 min to type it! I still haven't heard from him since I left that vm this morning, but this is so typical. I won't call tomorrow at all.... he will call I am sure

dd

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Registered: 02-22-2004
In reply to: vles64
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 2:51pm
So... did he call??????????
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In reply to: vles64
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 2:56pm
Nope. Kinda bummed AGAIN! Seems like a week ago today I was on cloud nine, even though I couldn't hook up with him at least I knew he wanted to! He leaves a week from today for two weeks and it just doens't seem to me he will make an effort to be together before he goes. If we aren't together it will be at least 5 weeks when he returns since we were together. He puts so much before me. I understand that but at the same time try and PLAN something occasionally for us so I at least FEEL special! He is going to lose me otherwise.

:(

bummed

dd

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Registered: 02-22-2004
In reply to: vles64
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:01pm
Hang in there DD.... I know it's tough. My MM told me last week on my voice mail that getting together with me for lunch this week would be cool. Now, seems he is working that day so we get a whopping hour if even that. He takes time off for fishing but not for me.

My pool is 84 degrees and I have beer and plenty of summer drink mixes... c'mon over and let's forget about these guys for a bit.

We deserve better- but it still does not make what we go through or feel any less.

Feel for you hon.

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In reply to: vles64
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 3:04pm
Sounds like you're in Fl so am i. I'll be right there! I will bring some Seagrams twisters and some munchies... drown our sorrows!

Shoot he'd probably call me up on the way over and I'd have to do a Uey!

LOL

(((hugs back)))

dd

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