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| Tue, 08-26-2003 - 11:53pm |
My story, in a nutshell. Never in a million years did I think I would have an A. In fact my husband and I used to talk about our friends (mostly mine) who had As and how awful it would be, and how we would never do that to each other.
Of course, never say never.
I always thought I was relatively happily married, we certainly had fights and issues and the passion was basically gone, but we were generally nice to each other without huge conflict.
My OM is also married and someone I know closely through my daughter. I knew he had been attracted to me for several years, I just smiled and never thought twice about it, until we started working closely together and all of a sudden it clicked...literally overnight. I swore to him in the beginning that we would never be more than friends; of course that changed as we quickly grew closer and became intimate. It was incredibly amazing to find someone who really adored me, in every sense of the word. Love came very quickly for both of us. We have been together about five months now with no signs of it ending.
We both absolutely will never leave our spouses. He is 10 years older, married nearly 30 years (me 13) and I would never, ever, get between him and his family. We have discussed why we are together, and we have had our ups and downs with separations, but for now we are happy together. I know somewhere in the back of my mind that it will end some day but for now I am enjoying our time together.
That's pretty much it. I just wanted to introduce myself as there are other messages I wanted to respond to, and I thought it best that I tell my story first. So...hello. :)

It's great to see lurkers coming out and sharing their story and offering their own unique wisdom to those on board.
It sounds as though at present you are at a good place in your EMA... I think if you both know what you want and understand the others needs and wants... it's makes for a great start. I never think of when my A will end... like everything else in life... I take it one step at a time... one never really knows what the future may hold... so I don't rely on it... and just live for the moment.
Again... I'm glad you felt that you could post... I look forward to seeing more posts from you in the near future.
luv and hugs
Sweet
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I'm pretty new, too, and was also glad to find this place. Never thought I'd have an A either-never thought anyone would want me, but, boy, my Sweetie does!
So many of the marital situations seem so similar-happy enough, but passion gone. Really a shame.
And yes, I guess we just have to enjoy it as it is.
Similiar situation here too. Never thought I would, and never plan on leaving H (same with MM). Glad you stepped out of the shadows! This is a great place to come and vent.
I thought I was a really terrible person until I found this board and saw that so many other really nice women are in the same situation. I guess we're not terrible people, we're just trying to be happy in this sometimes really crazy world!!
TA
first 16 years, then everything fell apart. I never thought
I would have an affair and I know for a fact my DH has never
cheated on me, which made the guilt harder to deal with. My
affair filled me up so much inside and made me feel things I
had never felt before. I am no longer with my lover, and have
suffered tremendously because of it. I don't know how to get
over my affair or how to stop wanting to feel that way again.
I fell in love with my DH again, but the sexual attraction is
still gone and I can't stop desiring my OM. I feel the same as
all of you...I can't imagine my life without my DH and I have
no intention to end my marriage. I just don't know how much
longer I can live like this.
If anyone is in the same situation and would like to talk,
feel free to email me:
mrsmm07@yahoo.com
Good luck :)
~~mandy~~