Defining your A...
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| Sun, 05-31-2009 - 5:02pm |
I was wondering how the fact that you and your AP were now in an A was brought up. My AP is an old dear friend of mine that I reconnected with about a year and a half ago. Around Feb. was when we first crossed any lines physically. About two weeks ago were we intimate for the first time since high school.
At this point we have not had a discussion about what we are doing. The closest we have come is when he said to me one day that he 'isnt an old pro at this' when we realized we were being a little too touchy in public for a moment.
There as a little spat about two months ago when he canceled plans on me last minute that he told me that we were friends and shouldnt be demanding of each others time. He was overwhelmed with school and work at the moment. This was right around the time that we first were physical with kissing and touching.

I know his W has no idea that we see each other as much as we do. There has been a couple of times that she will ask him last minute to meet her for lunch during her lunch hour and he has plans with me soon after. He has told me that he has to meet her for lunch, even though we were going to have lunch. Its a little strange but I havent asked him why he doesnt tell her. I am guessing that she wouldnt be ok with the fact that we do lunch at least twice a month.
She hasnt ever said anything to me. But I do find it odd that she is on my MYSpace and FaceBook but I no longer get emails from her. For a while she was sending me an email
The timing of this post couldn't be better. I'm struggling with this same issue at the moment. We are both in our 30's now. AP and I (barely)
Defining my A is not easy.
sweetjan08
Sorry to hear that. Its tough.
My AP had it really bad for me back when we were just out of school. He wanted to date me. I started seeing his roomate. To this day he still remembers the conversation we had when I told him that I was going to date his friend. He never asked why or I would have told him that I was afraid he would break my heart. The friend was "safe". Since they were roomates I seen AP nearly every day. We became