Did I have the "talk" too early?

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Registered: 09-29-2010
Did I have the "talk" too early?
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 6:58pm

Hi all,



I am new here and have some questions. I am involved with a MM and I am also married. His wife lost her drive 8 years ago and he said he is sick of being unhappy so he wanted to have some excitement/spice in his life. I have been married 3 years but am very lonely. My husband is a functional alcoholic and is hardly ever home. I am bored, frusterated but don't want to leave and either does the MM. That is understood I think. We met on Ashley Madison.



We have been talking for about a month and then just recently met up last week for the first time. WE had drinks and just chatted and seemed to hit it off. He grabbed me for a long intimate kiss before I left. Next day he emailed and said he had a good time and the kiss was so good he almost got a hotel room that night. Then this past Monday night, we went to go see a movie, well, not see, we wanted to go somewhere dark where we could have fun and we did. He kissed me again before leaving and said until next time. He said he thought I was going to be so much fun once we finally got a hotel room. The problem is before all this started, we never discussed what we both wanted out of this. I really didn't think about it until today because he said that hopefully we would be together again soon. So I sent him an e-mail:



Ok, I am going to ask this once and only once just because it wasn't made very clear in the beginning. I don't want any misunderstandings/drama or confusion. Are you wanting a relationship as in us hanging out/talking and most importantly sex, :)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:35am
Ha, funny, he just sent me an e-mail asking me to go to the firehouse he works at to hang out today.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 1:23pm

Yes, I think good you were upfront with your question and good he responded...even the way he did. I started my AP from Ashley M and it was supposed to be just sex. Im convinced woman dont know how to have emotionless sex like men do. I fell for him. We are still hanging out. It is sex but he has also made it clear, we are friends and he cares about me and its perfectly fine to meet up and just lay together and talk, no sex needed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 4:33pm
Aww lady !! I am sorry for you.Its not a good feeling to love someone and not having it reciprocated.Unrequited love hurts the most.Take my advice if you will-- stop contact with AP.Time apart will hurt less gradually.

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