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Did something stupid
| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 1:05am |
When my DH and I first started dating over 2.5 years ago, I did something really stupid when I was really drunk and had sex with a good friend of his. (BOOOOOOOOOOOOO) I had just come out of a bad marriage and didnt want a boyfriend or a committment at the time and thought this guy was really cute.
Now, over 2 years later, DH and I are happily married and I decided to come clean and tell him what happened as it had been eating away at me for ages. (This guy and I havent even TOUCHED each other since that night, although we are still friendly) As a result, DH is very upset and saying he never wants to speak to this friend again as he betrayed him.
I feel awful as I was the one who instigated the sex, not the friend. HE says hes OK but then goes really quiet. What can I do to make him trust me again? I am asking here because you guys wont judge me for what I did
Now, over 2 years later, DH and I are happily married and I decided to come clean and tell him what happened as it had been eating away at me for ages. (This guy and I havent even TOUCHED each other since that night, although we are still friendly) As a result, DH is very upset and saying he never wants to speak to this friend again as he betrayed him.
I feel awful as I was the one who instigated the sex, not the friend. HE says hes OK but then goes really quiet. What can I do to make him trust me again? I am asking here because you guys wont judge me for what I did
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| Mon, 09-22-2003 - 1:31am |
Man oh man, first rule, never ever just tell them because you feel guilty. I did the same thing, told because I felt bad. Big, Huge, mistake. He wanted to try and work things out & we ended up getting m. He never forgave & most certainly didn't forget. He couldn't, which is understandable. I should have known better. First of all I shouldn't have told him about the cheating. And secondly, I shouldn't have gotten back together. And the most important one of all, I shouldn't have m him. I don't know how you can regain his trust or patch things between him and his friend. Maybe see a therapist? That would probably be your best bet. Maybe if h and I had gone to one right off the get go, things would have been different. I'll never know. It's too late for me, I fell for another & my feelings for h are gone. Don't wait, I think, in my opinion, see someone. If you really love and want to stay m, see someone. Goodluck & I know what you're going through. Jdreamer96
