Did s*x change how you felt.....

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Did s*x change how you felt.....
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 2:41pm
Saturday is the "big night". So far it's only been kissing. I'm so afraid that once we actually sleep together that my heart is going to be open for a big heartache. I really want to spend the evening alone with him but I'm afraid of what's going to happen AFTER. Can anyone let me know what happened after you were intimate? Did you feel any different?

Thanks,

Smitten Kitten
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Registered: 05-30-2003
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 4:35pm
SK,

I don't think in my case that IC changed the my feelings for my OM from just friends to being in love. I think that the IC intensified what I was already feeling for him. I felt that it strengthened our bond towards each other. If this is something that you want to happen? If so be aware that yes you may be setting yourself up for heartache, are you willing to take that chance? Have you and OM talked about what you both want from this R? I'm sorry I can't recall if you are both M or not. Do you know in your mind and your heart what you want from him? Trust me it will add to your R but it may also make it more difficult, are you ready for that? You don't have to respond to these questions just some food for thought. Everyone is different and the way people handle their emotions in these situations is also different. You have to decide what you want from your R with OM and go from there. Keep us posted and whatever you decide we will be here for you. Good Luck DAF

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:05pm
Hi Secret,

Though I am living through my first EMA, I had my share of relationships with men before I got M. The first time has always been weird for me. Like my other Rs, with OM our first time was filled with high expectations and it was kind of clumsy. But it drew us closer, really deepened the special bond we have together. The second time was much better and since then it has been totally awesome.

In past Rs, if it wasn't wonderful by the third time, I would have suggested it was time to part ways.

Pug (heading out for a visit with OM tomorrow - it's been more than 3x so watch out for some serious fireworks)

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 12:49pm
I remember asking my OM, "This won't change anything, will it?"

Later that night he pulled me onto his lap and said, "It changed things." And he told me he loved me.

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 12:56pm
I guess it depends on you. For me, my MM and I didn't waste any time getting intimate. We got right down to it, but our meetings always started with a few cocktails (sometimes more than a few). He suggested we get together without having drinks first and that was it for me...I was hooked. Now I can't stop thinking about him and want to be with him all the time. I realize our situations are different, but yet somewhat the same.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-22-2003 - 1:33pm
ahhh derry, that's so sweet. you've got a sensitive guy there!

gurl

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 2:30pm
Thanks gurl ... he's a big teddy bear!