Did you think so blindly as I did?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2003
Did you think so blindly as I did?
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Tue, 09-16-2003 - 11:56am
I've had my OM for over a month now. At first I thought it was just for the sex. That I wouldn't let myself even start to get attached to my OM. At first I thought it would be just a one-time thing.

But now, that I have seen him at least six or seven times in the past month and the fact that I work with him, I beginning, no I do have feelings for this man. He is so sweet to me, even though I am the one having the affair and he is completely unattached. At first I thought he was just doing this for the sex, but deep down I think the man truly has an interest in me.

I am now so torn over what to do? Should I break up with my boyfriend. I don't understand how you can care for two people at the same time. I have never been in this situation before. I believe that the option for more with my OM is there, but I have to separate with my boyfriend to pursue that. I am so caught in between a rock and a hard place. Has anyone else been in this particular situation before and has some words of widsom for me?

Thanks

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-16-2003 - 1:29pm
gigi -- i replied to you on another thread about this exact question. i'm in your exact circumstance, being with my long-term BF. but my OM is married, so i don't have the option you have of breaking off with your BF and starting fresh with your OM. have you talked to the OM about this? if he wants to pursue a R with you, and you are not married, i feel you should give this R a chance. obviously you are not happy with your BF. do you want to eventually marry and have children? is the OM a candidate for a future like that?

these are questions only YOU can answer. think about it.

good luck honey,

gurl