Did your PA work out?
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Did your PA work out?
| Wed, 12-24-2008 - 8:25am |
Like you thought it would? are you happy with it? I would like some info on women who have crossed the line from an EA to a PA and if things worked out for you or are you more miserable than before the PA started? I am very tempted to "cross the line" one day.....

Do more reading here and see for yourself how much people are in pain. Then cross over to the EAS board and see how hard it is to end. An A is not for the weak of mind and heart!!!
Good luck to you.
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
At first wasn't more miserable, because of the high of the affair, but eventually, WAY more miserable than before it started. Although at the time I could say that there were pros to it, once I was finally able to get away from it and see things with clear eyes, realized the damage it did, and that it really was only a con. It's like coming out of the storm cellar once a tornado has passed.
I'm not going to tell you what to do, because I don't even know you, and you wouldn't really listen anyway, but I will suggest reading all you can here and on the EAS and AAS boards. REALLY read them. Even on this board, most are going to suggest you not getting involved, even though they are. Because it's just not an easy road to follow. You don't mention if you're married or not. I CAN tell you this....if you start an affair, it WILL affect your marriage negatively. Hands down. Do you want this?
I don't know what 'work out' means. A's always end, just a matter of when and how. This time, MM and I understand that this is FWB, so there really was no EA to start out with. The only time I ever had an EA it got messy all around. No Thank You.
jana
This sounds crazy I know..but I'm gonna say it. What feels more difficult for me to accept right now is not the fact that my AP is M. It's that I know he is gonna start the same thing with another co-worker to replace me. That seems to be bugging me more. I just want to forget him and this whole entire nightmare. I know this is a support board for A's. And I'm not here to judge anyone..only to offer support. But the kind of advice I will give to anyone thinking about an A is NOT to ever get entangled with anyone who is M. I'm single so I can move about with others. I can't imagine if I had to deal with a SO or H right now.
It's amazing what an ounce of attention can do to a person who is vulnerable like I was when I met him. And I remember how I kept trying to avoid him and keep my distance. His behavior just shows me how truly selfish he is. He knows no boundaries and neither did I, obviously.
I can't wait until I'm finally over this. I've been through break-ups before so I know I'll be indifferent one day. I just have to ride this out right now.
My EA has not crossed into a PA and that is because my EAP and I both
I know why I am doing it, and so does he. I know I can do it and not get entangled. It is purely escape from reality for me and I know the more frequency the more chance of getting caught. If you do choose to cross the line, do it with clarity and do not get careless and allow your emotions to take over. THAT will be your downfall. BTDT