Didn't see that one coming....

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Didn't see that one coming....
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 2:17am

After posting here last time, and receiving a pretty unanimous vote, I decided that potential AP (to be referred to as AP in this test to avoid confusion) had no interest. Or not enough to make a move. I had pretty much decided he was a "no", and so I had not attempted to engage him in any way for a couple of weeks. No lingering eye contact. No attempts at semi-flirtatious conversation. Nothing.


So on to yesterday....there is a man at the gym who is pretty to look at. His personality is severely lacking several IQ points, but he is pretty. I had a conversation with him briefly about something unimportant, and I noticed AP staring at me. He kept watching me again. I passed by him, and he stopped, looked directly at me and smiled. I got nervous and fluttery, but I kept my cool. Smiled back and kept walking. When I left the gym, I noticed AP about to get in his vehicle. He saw me and started to get in his car, thought better of it, and shut the door. He was parked next to me. Then he started ranting. Seriously, he started talking about my eyes, and how I looked at him. And how he just had to kiss me, but no, he wouldn't kiss me. But my eyes. And how I looked at him. On and on. It was a complete argument with himself but out loud. I just watched him and let him rant, trying not to laugh. Then someone else he knew came outside and waved, so he turned, got in his vehicle and left. It was so bizarre. I have no idea what to say. What to do. He wasn't there today. I feel like I am going to explode before I see him again.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 9:34am

Borderline, just my .02 and don't want to burst a bubble, but he sounds like a flake to me. I'd run like my hair was on fire! Just sayin.



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Registered: 01-15-2007
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 10:26am

I don't think you need to say or do anything.  If you initiate anything at this point & something more happens, he could flip out again and then you'll feel like crud.  If you're still considering an A with him, let him argue it out with himself & see what he comes back with.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 10:27am
LOL @ Janamich67. He seems very weird to me.


Much peace & Love,



iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2009
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:00am
I guess he just ' thought out loud' ! Its likely he is having an inner struggle about you. He seems to be trying to stay away from you ( that's what made you believe he wasn't interested) but when he sees you,its hard for him.Maybe you can stay away from him till your feelings fade away.
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 11:29am


He sounds very confused!  Let him work this all out aloud or inside his head, and see where this leads.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-26-2010
Thu, 09-20-2012 - 3:46pm
I thought the same thing as Jana when I read what you wrote
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2012
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 11:51am
Well at least he is entertaining :smileyhappy: Take the compliments but din't take the man!
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2007
Tue, 09-25-2012 - 2:00pm

Yay!  :smileyvery-happy:

Good for you!  Sometimes checking out your options can make you realize you're already just fine where you're at.