Disappointed

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Registered: 01-12-2009
Disappointed
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Mon, 07-26-2010 - 8:18pm

Hello All ~ I'd love to hear from the men... but ladies please chime in:


Some of you may remember me. For those that don't... your not missing much. I have a concern that I need help with. My MAP and I have been seeing each other going on 2 years now. Recently, I've noticed that he goes limp very fast even before I get a chance to "seize the moment". I have a girlfriend who thinks he's seeing someone else and therefore not making him go the distance. What is your feedback on this issue?

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 9:13pm

summer....I wanted to chime in.

TanZa2920
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Registered: 05-21-2010
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 10:59pm

I cannot help with personal experience here ladies...sorry! But...from what I have heard there can be SO many things that contribute to this.


How old is he? If he's older...it's more likely to happen, especially if he has already had IC that day or the night before.


Medications he might be taking and side effects? Again - I am not familiar with which ones cause what - but have heard that blood pressure meds can sometimes cause this.


Stress and nerves? If it's this one, then at least it's something you have more control over. How about telling him that for the next 2 or 3 weeks (put your own number in here depending on how often you see him), you are going to have a challenge...and that will be to not have IC. You can each pleasure the other in other ways...and see what kind of fun ways you will come up with to do this. This way there is no pressure on him to "perform". If there is no pressure there, then when you are ready to have IC again...hopefully he will be so ready for it that there won't be any problems.


Hope some of this might help:-))

LouLou
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