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| Fri, 08-14-2009 - 6:31pm |
I’m sure all of you have heard my situation dozens of times.
| Fri, 08-14-2009 - 6:31pm |
I’m sure all of you have heard my situation dozens of times.
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Hey ahuxley, a long time ago I had an A and after three months of being with this unbelievable man I left. I didn't leave to be with my AP at that time, I left because I just didn't love my XH anymore plus the fact that he was abusive. I left with two small children. Many years later I am now M to that unbelievable man and I don't regret for one second that I left that awful M and set my XH free as well as myself. It was extremly hard and there was a lot of anger, confusion and stuff we had to go through. Divorce is very hard and raising kids on your own is hard but the piece of mind I got when I left my XH outweighed all of our struggles. I recommend that you don't tell your H that you have met someone else. I didn't tell mine, I just left (or put him out), but me and my honey were so in to each other that we couldn't stay away from each other. Although I was living alone we would spend almost every night together. That was also hard because I hid him from my kids (who were toddlers at the time) and my family and XH. I told my XH that I just didn't want to be M to him any more. After about six months when I formally introduced my honey to my family and my XH found out, my XH accused me of having an A while we were still M. I never admitted it but I know that he knew. I really didn't care. The most difficult thing for me was my XH anger. As I stated before, he was always abusive but when I left OMG he really went on the attack. Thank God for the police. Another difficult thing was that my XH was the bread winner. I did have a career but I was a school teacher and you know that kind of salary is just peanuts. I ended up going back to school later and now have a better career but those years after I left were a struggle.
Follow your heart, but realize that you are in for a long, hard road both with your H and his W and your children. It can be done. My honey and I have been M a long time now and I still know that he is my soul mate and I don't regret for one second taking the leap of faith to be with him. I think it is more honorable to just leave someone if you are not happy rather than stay and continue to cheat on them. It's just not fair to the other person.
What a great success story.
"I would really appreciate any comments you might have from those of you that have been through divorce.
AH,
You have made the right decision and I can assure you your D will have a minimal impact on your daugher.
Curious543, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your response.
Best of luck to you.
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Thanks martialartsmom.
Hey notme.
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