discovery??

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Registered: 08-27-2008
discovery??
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:03pm

Hi,


I have not posted my story but have lurked. I am not sure if I should be on this or EAS board now. I have (had?)

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Registered: 07-18-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:18pm
As someone who had a semi d-day, I can tell you that his reactions are normal. If he told you he will not leave his M and now his W found out something, he got scared and is trying to fix the situation in his M. My AP used to say sweet things to me, send me text messages full of love and then we had our semi d-day and things cooled down a bit now. He didn't break it off with me yet but I sense that he will, soon.

He may approach you if things get better at home but trust me, as much as it hurts, it's better that he doesn't

As to question Nr. 2, it's possible that he made it up but if he told you a plausible story and you have no reason to doubt him, then don't.

Just consider your A as being over. Don't wait for him to change his mind and contact you. It will drive you crazy. I know.
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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:24pm

desire_for,


Thank you so much for your answer... It is so helpful to know that it seems to be a "standard" reaction. I guess they realize what they really care about, and then protect that and throw us to the wind... And I can't believe I believed everything he said...


It is so nice to have this board.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 5:25pm

Sounds like the chase is over for him and it wasn't what he expected it to be. I think he's now trying to push you away but don't want to hurt your feelings too much. If an man can't tell you he loves you, that's because he doesn't.

Accept that he played you and move on. Be glad he's showing you his true colors now instead of leading you on for years. If you're single find a nice single guy who doesn't play with your emotions.

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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 7:29pm

Thank you goddess... The problem is how much he did tell me he loved me, with or w/o the physical part. We actually were most time an EA than PA... Is that what they all say?

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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 7:56pm

You are right ilaughatu, maybe he did not love me at all and I'm just feeling too sad about this. At least I am happy that I never actually "dropped my pants" as you said. We

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Registered: 02-22-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:34am

I'm finding it strange that people who don't know you or your

Edwina
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Registered: 08-27-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 9:16am

goddess_edwina,


Thank you so much. Your advice means so much.

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Registered: 02-22-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 9:57am

I know I am lucky.

Edwina
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Registered: 02-23-2004
In reply to: kl1971
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 10:59am

No one can tell you what he's thinking except (maybe) him.

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Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: kl1971
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 2:58pm
Wow,his w is b 4 u,no matter what,just let it