Discovery - freaking out.

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Registered: 04-25-2004
Discovery - freaking out.
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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 2:47pm
My Saturday began with a call from my AP to quickly go change the passwords in his e-mail account, that she was going through his computer. A friend later talked to him and said she is accusing, says she found something incriminating (I can't imagine what it would be). She is locked out of the account right now, and will remain so until he tells me otherwise. I don't know what's going on, haven't spoken to him, am really worried, scared, etc. He was planning on leaving in the spring anyway, so I suppose this might just hurry things up, unless he talks his way out of it. I'm sitting here trying to assess what problems this could cause for me if she finds my name, which is on some of his software, because I own the site license. I'm worried about him. And I am completely flipped out that something, don't know what, is happening right now that is going to affect my life and I have no idea what the heck is going on, where he is taking us, what decisions he is making under extreme duress, in addition to what he is already dealing with. This is awful.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 2:17am
why would you want to push someone to be with you? if someone wants you they fall no need to push
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Registered: 04-17-2006
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 1:04pm
I say this is not about YOU anymore. It is time for him to step up to the plate and handle this thing with her how he chooses to. He can walk now, or he can stay with her and work it out. Either way you aren't making the decisions here, he is. If he walks then you have a chance to be with him...if he stays then you can continue the A even though she'll be watching him like a hawk or you can decide to remove yourself from this crazy situation. Talking to her on messenger is a little wierd...if she's not asking you questions then what the heck were you two sending messages about? Don't add more drama to this than there has to be.
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 1:26pm

I'm sorry your fears may be realized.


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