divorce, AP, what do you do.
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divorce, AP, what do you do.
| Tue, 04-21-2009 - 4:20pm |
i guess the word came up again for my AP. he was talking to me over the weekend about it, then mentioned it again today. it's not him, but his spouse. i guess she's trying to push it. i just listen, but asked for the reasons today. when he told me, i kind of started yelling into the phone. the reasons are ridiculous. i want to help him some how. i'm not sure what i can do for him. his concern is for his kids and what this would do to them. i try to say to him things to try to make his marriage work. i told him how sad it is if his marriage falls apart. it's so sad if this where to come to be. i asked him if he was still going to marriage counseling. he told me he is going to try to go back. i want to see him save his marriage for those kids.

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EXACTLY (your ETA)!!
"People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within."
- Ramona L. Anderson
Edited 4/23/2009 7:51 pm ET by goddessautumn
Oh Tori, I really don't feel right arguing with you, this playing field is not level at all, but if you insist:
"broken homes are horribe. no matter what any one says,children don't really recover like people say, they do act out"
"i'm better off for it because i didn't come from a broken home."
"the way i am personally has nothing to do with what my parents did or didn't do in their marriage"
If you don't see the contradictions in that (like everyone else reading this does), then, well, I don't even know what to say Tori.....
i'll play along. let me just say you know of my experiences.
"broken homes are horribe. no matter what any one says,children don't really recover like people say, they do act out"------ as i have already said, but i'll repeat it i have seen first hand. both my newphews, adult men who are products of divorce, my son as a child was a product of a seperation. thank he was saved from a broken home, my husbands friend. know he's losing his kids to another state. uless you know of my experiences, who i know, and have lived my life, you really have no leg to stand on, now do you.
next--"i'm better off for it because i didn't come from a broken home."---that's right. i stayed in my marriage for my son to grow up with an intact family. it made me a better person with family values and didn't give up on my home and family just because there was no love. i had my child to show proper family values to. he's a better person for it because him now as an adult knows what true family values are. now that my son is an adult, eventually i would like to move on my own. him as a child, no way, i would have never done to him. he can proudly say he has an intact family, not a broken home. it's way too easy for people to get divorced. most people divorce without even trying.
and next---"the way i am personally has nothing to do with what my parents did or didn't do in their marriage"---i learned how not to give up on the family unit and walk away like i see most people do. that has nothing to do with what my parents did or didn't do. that comes from within myself and my values.
there's no contradictions in any of it. i didn't come from a broken home, my parents stayed married for us kids, like i have done for my son. because of this we are better people. it shows family values, pure and simple.
divorce hurts children.
Like I said before Tori, you make no sense.
So the lesson learned
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