Divorce, MM's Friend: New Beginnings
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| Thu, 05-20-2004 - 12:11am |
My marriage of less than 2 yrs. has not been the greatest: lots of verbal abuse, lazy irresponsible H, I could go on. The A allowed me to see that I truly did not care deeply about my H and made me make the decision to move on.
So I have. H started the whole thing when he blew up at me and said things "were over" between us. I drove away to mothers' day alone, with H calling and calling, apologizing (a very regular pattern with him). I didn't give in that time, told him that it is truly over. We've been dealing with the fallout since then, though we are somewhat amicable. No kids, not a ton of assets, equal incomes, so fairly simple as far as divorces go.
I've been hanging out with MM and his friend the entire time of our R. MM's friend has been divorced about 2 years. His wife had an A on him.
Well, we confessed how we both liked each other. We started talking all the time on the phone. He had a week-long vacation out of state right after our confessions to each other, but we still talked to each other.
He's known for a long time that my marriage was bad. I have not once seen him with a woman, despite the fact that I know plenty like him since he's attractive and quite successful. He seemed to always take the opportunity to hang out with MM if I was along.
We finally got together last Sun and WOW, what a gentleman! It was wonderful. We ended up having long, wonderful sex. He's more gentle and loving than MM. He seems to really, truly care for me. He told me that he wanted to tell his mom about me (that's where he was out of state--we hadn't even kissed at that point!) but he thought it would be too weird to explain I just started the whole divorce process. He has 2 young daughters who are absolutely adorable--he told me I'd meet them sometime.
My, how quickly things can change. I really like this man. A real relationship! And I really like the fact that we had a 6 month period of getting to know each other and become friends before the physical part happened. We are so similar in so many ways, it is almost scary.
So, for all you out there in the middle of an A and in a bad marriage, there are other men out there! I cared a lot for MM, and still do, but there's nothing like a deep, real relationship.
I had to tell MM today that things are over between us. He's okay with it--he knows I'm dealing with a lot of stuff in my life now and that my life is in transition. He's close friends with my new "boyfriend", but I think he'll be okay with it. A lot of the time, he seemed to almost want to set me up with him, telling me he thought that this guy really liked me. So I'm sure I'll still be hanging out with these 2! Very odd, I know, but I'm okay with it if they are :)

I guess happy endings can and do take place. You are an inspiration. Good Luck!!
Virgogirl