You're kidding, right? Of course he's going to stay with the wife and family and happily enjoy your friend as long as she lets him have both. That's the way some men are wired. I know, I've lived through many years with one. He always comes home. I hate it, but keep putting
Refer your friend to this board. Here she will read stories of women who have been waiting YEARS for their AP to leave their W and marry them. I can't count the number of women I have seen post something like this over the years. The thing is? I can count on one hand the number of times I have actually seen this come to fruition AND turn into a happy union.
Similarly, over the years I have read countless from women hurting because their H's have cheated on them. Many of them are utterly shocked that they had a miserable sexless marriage. Because the reality was that their marriage was neither miserable nor sexless.
It is really easy to SAY you are miserable and tell tales about how awful the wife is. It would be a gross generalization to say that *all* MM do this. But many do. I would also say that there are a fair share of MW that tell similar lies to their APs. Because somehow it makes it less deplorable if you are UNHAPPY and cheating. Or something.
I know it sounds very cut and dried, but when you think about it - it's true! MM lie to their W's about their whereabouts so they can fit their OW's into their schedules. Please - have you ever known an MM to say to his wife: 'Sorry honey I won't be around tonight, I'm off to cheat on you and have sex with my AP'... lolol
MMs lie to their OW's too - I don't believe for one minute that their M is as bad as they say it is, if it really was they'd be high-tailing it out of there, stat. They stay because they are getting a payoff for some reason or another - stability for the kids, lifestyle advantages, their image, etc etc. They also lie about what's really going on at home, mostly to protect the OW's feelings so that she is willing to continue the A. It's not always 100% bad at home... I could go on but I think you get the point.
You know Tori, I agree with Trixie on this one. Any married person in an A is teaching their AP about the most negative side of themselves. The ability to lie to and cheat on a loved one.
So MM's (and MW's too) are lying. And if a married person can lie to their spouse, what makes you think they are above lying to their AP? I think it would just be naive to believe that MM's do not lie to the OW.
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You're kidding, right? Of course he's going to stay with the wife and family and happily enjoy your friend as long as she lets him have both. That's the way some men are wired. I know, I've lived through many years with one. He always comes home. I hate it, but keep putting
Lily1436
Refer your friend to this board. Here she will read stories of women who have been waiting YEARS for their AP to leave their W and marry them. I can't count the number of women I have seen post something like this over the years. The thing is? I can count on one hand the number of times I have actually seen this come to fruition AND turn into a happy union.
Similarly, over the years I have read countless from women hurting because their H's have cheated on them. Many of them are utterly shocked that they had a miserable sexless marriage. Because the reality was that their marriage was neither miserable nor sexless.
It is really easy to SAY you are miserable and tell tales about how awful the wife is. It would be a gross generalization to say that *all* MM do this. But many do. I would also say that there are a fair share of MW that tell similar lies to their APs. Because somehow it makes it less deplorable if you are UNHAPPY and cheating. Or something.
I guess I'm naive to this kind of stuff, but I'm kinda shocked.
100% of MM lie to the OW, and 100% of MM also lie to their W. They have to in order to keep the A going!
hugs,
trixie
I agree with Trixie.
My MM lies 110% of the time... I know for a fact.
See, your friend doesn't want to read this board because then she wont' be so "naive" to the truth.
Obviously we can't speak to your friends situation specifically and whether or not the MM she is being with is being dishonest.
I know it sounds very cut and dried, but when you think about it - it's true! MM lie to their W's about their whereabouts so they can fit their OW's into their schedules. Please - have you ever known an MM to say to his wife: 'Sorry honey I won't be around tonight, I'm off to cheat on you and have sex with my AP'... lolol
MMs lie to their OW's too - I don't believe for one minute that their M is as bad as they say it is, if it really was they'd be high-tailing it out of there, stat. They stay because they are getting a payoff for some reason or another - stability for the kids, lifestyle advantages, their image, etc etc. They also lie about what's really going on at home, mostly to protect the OW's feelings so that she is willing to continue the A. It's not always 100% bad at home... I could go on but I think you get the point.
trixie :-)
I agree about the lying, I do also think that anyone is capable of lying whether you are in an affair or not.
You know Tori, I agree with Trixie on this one. Any married person in an A is teaching their AP about the most negative side of themselves. The ability to lie to and cheat on a loved one.
So MM's (and MW's too) are lying. And if a married person can lie to their spouse, what makes you think they are above lying to their AP? I think it would just be naive to believe that MM's do not lie to the OW.
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