Do cheaters have any right to their AP

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Do cheaters have any right to their AP
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Thu, 04-15-2010 - 9:39am

Hi, All


Do cheater really have any right to their ap ?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:05am

An AP doesnt have a 'right' on you as well, especially a married woman.He too cant expect anything from you.Your choice of AP, exAP , future AP are guys who are being toxic to you,realize it or not.What makes it right for a SM to have any kind of relation with a married woman??

It would be entirely different story if you or your AP was in love and I cant see love anywhere in your posts except control.

Take care and get rid of this new AP.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:15am

Hi, Heissick


So, I should get rid of him because their no love between us ?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2007
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:21am
Stay if you just want sex but then dont brood.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 10:46am

brood?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2003
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 6:52pm

I don't think either one of you have "rights", so to speak, over one another.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 8:06pm

I want to be the only one in his life ,but I know I have no right to ask.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 8:51am

Arent you going crazy again,gal? You dont even know this guy as yet.How long have you known him? Please dont ruin your life for these SM.
For one you say its just sex and then you want to be the only one in his life.You are getting emotionally attached to someone who doesnt sound too good a match even.You are just seeing a part of him.Who knows how he is when you get to know him better.

DONT do this to yourself!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 04-16-2010 - 4:13pm

Hello lady,


I know how you feel, your seeing your AP and want him all to yourself. But know that in asking that it's being very unfair especially since we are not being true to the person we are married to. How many times have I sat beside him and cringed thinking he was with someone else but I NEVER asked him to remain loyal to me. Although in my heart I wished it. I've always told him that I want him to be happy even if it's with someone else and that I feel I'm blocking his blessings from giving his all to someone else. He said he chooses to be with only me but will I ever know that?....no.


I think it's a choice that is made and if they choose to be with just you then it's cool but if they want to keep it open and see others well then either you deal with it or leave it alone if you can't handle it.


So many complications in A, which is why I wish I never opened the door and entered into one. When feelings get involved, its a whole other door we've opened.


Wishing you well.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 12:42pm

I got to see him this Friday and the more time I spent with him the more I see he is not the one for me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-06-2010
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 1:56pm

I know him since Aug 09 however,

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