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|Thu, 11-08-2012 - 10:25am|
Hi, I am dating a "married man" for the last 7 weeks or so. He is going through a divorce and our relationship is out in the open so I'm not sure I would consider it an affair. However, I really do need support because I didn't realive how hard it would be to "go through the divorce" with him. The story is complicated by the fact that he was the love of my life off and on from age 16 to 20. He chose his current wife over me 19 years ago, when I was 20 when we were sort of in the middle of a "love triangle". He called me a couple months ago to tell me that he has never gotten me out of his mind for 19 years and is there any chance he and I can spend the rest of our lives together? I have always loved this man and dreamed about him. We have not had contact in 19 years although have apparently kept tabs on each other. I had been married 10 years, divorced in 2005 with 2 kids. Then I was engaged to another man for 6 years and had 2 kids with him. I have been single/dating for 1 1/2 years when I get this call from the absolute love of my life out of the blue. I couldn't help but drop everything for him. When he found out I was available, only then did he ask his wife for a divorce. They have been married 17 years, together 22 years. He had cheated on her with me back when we were teenagers. But, he was my original boyfriend first. My mistake was breaking up with him when I was 17 and then he met her after that. But he and I continued to carry on a relationship off and on for 3 years, culminating in him choosing her finally when I was 20 as I said. He has no kids. I have 4. He has moved out of his house and is living with his parents because we feel it is way too soon for him to move in with me. He is now feeling guilty that he didn't end his marriage before looking for me. And, I keep thinking I am going to have the rug pulled out from me again as I did when I was 20. Back then he was suppose to be choosing me over her and 24 hours of being in the wrong place at the wrong time turned the tables and he ended up with her and I walked away and tried to move on.
Anyway, I really need support or I am going to sabotage this relationship due to my anxiety. Is this he place for me?
Thanks for your help