Do I have a right to not feel guilty?
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Do I have a right to not feel guilty?
| Tue, 10-21-2003 - 1:53pm |
I was married for seven years. He cheated on me a couple of times and we separated, but talked about reconciling. Early into the separation, he met a woman and she got pregnant a month after they met. Because of the pregnancy, he asked her to marry him after our divorce was final. However, the entire time he's been with her he's also been with me. I love him a great deal and they're not married yet. Do I have a right to not feel guilty about the fact that he still loves me and wants me and that I still have those feelings for him even though he's engaged considering that she broke up our marriage and kind of trapped him with her pregnancy? By the way, he has told me that he wants us to have a long-term affair.

I find it troubling that he wants to have a long term affair with you. What I see is him taking away your wifely benefits and giving them to someone else and in the process asking you to play second fiddle to this someone else. If he really wants you, he'd remarry you and still continue to be a father to this new child. It just doesn't sound right. Think about it.
Think about what YOU really want. What you're willing to sacrifice and not sacrifice for what you want both long term and short term.
Good Luck.
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jenny
One more thing, I know someone said it sounds like he took away my wifely privileges, but in a way it feels like he took away some of the things that I really didn't like having to do/deal with as a wife and I kept a lot of my wifely privileges. (In other words, I can see benefits in this to me....although I don't like having to share him with her.)
Edited 10/22/2003 1:55:45 PM ET by rosesarered23225