Do i tell her?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Do i tell her?
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 1:55am
Ok only have a few min so here it is. Me w and my ow are going away for the night. we are all best friend i have arranged it so me and OW get about 1hr together without W knowing. Do i tell OW my real feelings? We promised no strings and were best friends before the A. She is also W;s best friend. Its not love yet but could be as i do love but not inlove yet. Feel like im falling though. Im so confused and feel soo strongly for her...maybe it is love....any advice...so confused...we talk all the time she texts me just to say hi on work breaks, i beleieve she feels more than she says too...i really want to have this convo but is it too risky? please help
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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: bigsecrets
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 2:13am

Hi bigsecrets,


I believe this has been hashed out a couple of times lately... I won't go through it again... but I will bump the thread by ducks titled... should I tell him... it may give you some perspective.

Sweet
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: bigsecrets
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 9:17am
I've seen it a lot on this board - "should I tell him/her how I really feel?" Personally I don't see anything wrong with opening up to a person we have feelings for, in fact, I am convinced that we do more harm than good by NOT expressing our emotions and keeping them in. In my case I almost lost the only woman I ever truly loved because of not telling her how I really felt. Now I say "I love you" whenever I feel like it - when we lie next to each other holding hands and her fingers are gently stroking my palm, or when we walk by the ocean and she stops and puts her face up to be kissed, or when we talk I would sometimes stop her mid-sentence just to say it. Not necessarily to make it sound "important" and "meaningful" - sometimes I feel like saying it because it's the truth. Obvious and simple truth - just like "grass is green" or "snow is white."

Tell her how you feel. If she is not yet ready to hear it or to reciprocate she will let you know.