Do I tell him I want a divorce?

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Do I tell him I want a divorce?
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Mon, 11-24-2003 - 2:17pm
Please, I need some advice!!! In short, my husband and I already seperated once because we had affairs. We got back together & moved out of state to try to keep our marriage together. We recently moved back to the town we moved a way from, & I have been seeing the man I had an affair with before, but I haven't been honest with him either. He thinks that my husband and I are seperated & have decided to get a divorce. I have such a strong attraction to this man, I feel like he & I are meant to be, & I feel as if I've outgrown my husband ( we have been together scince I was 17) now I am 24. My husband doesn't have a clue. We do have 3 children together, & I don't want to hurt him again, but if he were to find out he would be devastated. HELP!!!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 3:10pm
blueyes - you have to figure out what you want from life! i feel like you're not dealing with the basic reason you started the A, just running away from the situation. that obviously didn't work out since you are still involved with the OM.

you are only 24 and already you've been married, had 3 children, separated, had one A and now back to the A after moving away to "start over" -- so what is it that you want? i think you need to consider some counseling, either by yourself to get your head on straight and to figure out your priorities, or with your H to see if you can make this M work.

good luck,

gurl

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Registered: 11-20-2003
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 3:23pm
Yes. What else can you do? If you feel so strongly for this man and for this long, what else can you do? You said you and your husband have had previous affairs? Why are you still together, for the children? What's the reason you both had the affairs? Did you think you were missing out on something? You say you have a strong attaction to this other man. Do you love him? I think you really have the answer within yourself. It's just a matter of...if your ready to hear it. Medea