Do material things matter?

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Do material things matter?
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 2:50am
Wonder if you find out that your MM does not have as nice a STUFF as you thought he did? Wonder if he always told you , you deserve better ! I think I might have found out something about my MM. I was wondering how much value a man puts on the house someone lives in? The belongings they have and all that? Do men really feel bad if the woman they love has much better wealth wise? Could that stop them from being with you? Even If they truely love you?
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 7:10am
Personally speaking, if my MM was concerned about how much money I make or what type of house I live in in order to pursue a relationship with me.....it would be hard to have a relationship with him.
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 9:55am
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Edited 4/24/2004 4:24 pm ET ET by julietsfate
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Tue, 04-20-2004 - 10:29am


Some men are insecure if the woman makes more money. I am in a position now to make double my husband's salary and he has told me it concerns him. He thinks I might leave him because I can financialy be on my own. That is how I found out he was keeping me down (wouldn't support me going back to college) all these years! I guess if you start out that way he shouldn't feel insecure.

My MM has a lot more money/things than I do, but I didn't know either because he was renting a home in my neighborhood while his BIG house was being built. He could loose it all as well and I would still be there, he is so sweet and funny those are SOME of the reasons I am with him.

deedee

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 4:52pm
I agree that money has nothing to do with the love you feel in your heart for someone. I was just curious if men had different opinions.
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Registered: 01-02-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:16pm
No, material things do not matter. At different points in my adult life so far I have been so poor that I had to scrape through my carseats looking for loose change to buy groceries, and I have been so well off that I spent $350 on a pair of shoes. Now, I'm somewhere in between. Comfortable. So having been at both ends of the spectrum, I know that $$$ truly does not buy happiness, and having "stuff" doesn't make you any more or less of a person.

:)

Circe

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Registered: 01-14-2004
Tue, 04-20-2004 - 5:35pm
Sadly, that is true too often. Men can be so stubborn and sexist sometimes. I personally couldn't care less whether my SO makes more or less money than I do. If she makes more, great, that means we will be that much more comfortable. If she makes less, that's fine too because I do okay. I'm not wealthy and my tastes aren't all that expensive so I try not to let money become an issue.

That said, it is a two way street. I know my wife always resented the fact that SHE made more than I do. She wanted to stay home with the kids, even though when my son was born, she couldn't wait to get back to work after 5 weeks. And she always held it over my head as if I wasn't working as hard as she was. It was about respect (or lack thereof), not money.