I bet anyone ever involved in an A has felt exactly the same at one point or another... I try to keep in mind for myself that if it ever reaches a point of the negatives of the R outweighing the positives, it will be time to end it. Easier said than done...but it reminds me that
Hi rmab1998, As much as I do enjoy my AP, I share your feelings of being "tired" of it all, too. He and I have a very good friendship, which is what I will miss the most when the A is really over. (I will miss the sex and the kisses, too - very good stuff!) I am tired, though, of being the one who initiates getting together, or texting, etc. So, now that I am on vacation, I will take a break from him. (needing much encouragement!) He is S, so lately he has been telling me that I am missing something and that is why I always want to be with him. I called him on this and said "it is not just ME. It is you, too." he has no right to put the blame of this A on me. We are in this together. And I can get out, too. :)
" but I don't think I am strong enough to let go of him yet!"
You are SW,keep looking around for available men, date around and when you find you really click with,end the A.You dont owe your AP anything.He is a filler till you find the one ;)
It amazes me every time I read these posting how much all these feelings are exactly mine, like I have written them myself. I was thinking that the other day. I get tired of the extra effort I have to put in this A. Text him before I go to bed because he feels I dont think of him, call him often so he doesn't think I forgot him, pay close attention or he thinks I'm not feeling him. I mean it goes on and on sometimes and I ALWAYS find myself DRAINED. But then he makes me feel beautiful, wonderful, & special and that some how out weighs all the other things that annoy me.
Makes you wonder why enter an A in the first place, right?
i am very tired of the A. Of lying. Of going back and forth. Of playing yo yo with him. Or hurting him. Of hurting myself. Of not knowing what i want. Of knowing that we can never "be" because of me, not him. Tired of it all.
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As much as I do enjoy my AP, I share your feelings of being "tired" of it all, too. He and I have a very good friendship, which is what I will miss the most when the A is really over. (I will miss the sex and the kisses, too - very good stuff!)
I am tired, though, of being the one who initiates getting together, or texting, etc. So, now that
I am on vacation, I will take a break from him. (needing much encouragement!) He is S, so lately he has been telling me that I am missing something and that is why I always want to be with him. I called him on this and said "it is not just ME. It is you, too." he has no right to put the blame of this A on me. We are in this together. And I can get out, too. :)
Hi rmab,
" but I don't think I am strong enough to let go of him yet!"
You are SW,keep looking around for available men, date around and when you find you really click with,end the A.You dont owe your AP anything.He is a filler till you find the one ;)
Hi Rmab1998,
It amazes me every time I read these posting how much all these feelings are exactly mine, like I have written them myself. I was thinking that the other day. I get tired of the extra effort I have to put in this A. Text him before I go to bed because he feels I dont think of him, call him often so he doesn't think I forgot him, pay close attention or he thinks I'm not feeling him. I mean it goes on and on sometimes and I ALWAYS find myself DRAINED. But then he makes me feel beautiful, wonderful, & special and that some how out weighs all the other things that annoy me.
Makes you wonder why enter an A in the first place, right?
Wishing you well!
Much peace & Love,
Rayne
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Good Question.
i am very tired of the A. Of lying. Of going back and forth. Of playing yo yo with him. Or hurting him. Of hurting myself. Of not knowing what i want. Of knowing that we can never "be" because of me, not him. Tired of it all.
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oh definitely...well after not sending my email this morning (I usually send one at 6) he finally sent one to me at 9, asking where
Yes - I think we all get tired.
I think the running theme I see across the board is that we are typically the pursuer and not being pursued necessarily which takes a lot more effort.
((((Hugs)))) rmab!
I don't know that I necessarily "get tired" of the A, though I do get frustrated at times.
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Hi chick,
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