do u let him call or text u

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Registered: 07-28-2007
do u let him call or text u
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 6:38pm

ok do u let him call u

kathy
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 9:16pm

I would wait for him to contact you first. From the MW pov, if I was seeing someone on the side that I didn't want my h to know about, a text or call from ap would throw that off and make for a potential, unnecessary problem. My situation is different, though, in that My stbx moved out and while I don't flaunt my relationship with my ap, it's out in the open and he knows we talk and that I see him.

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 10:01pm

thanks thats what my best friend tells me do not text him or call let him text

kathy
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 11:17pm

vikings,


I never call/txt my AP first and never have thru our A. Maybe once or twice only for the whole year when i really wanted to let him know i'm thinking of him. But that was so rare. I always wait for him to text. Trust me that is the best way to see how much the person cares for you and wants to be in contact with you. If you always reach out first. it gives the image that you're needy. But if you wait for him, you will appear to be more in control of your life. If he texts you, great. if not, well then you did the right thing by not texting him first.


That's my two cents.


Sunshine

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Registered: 08-09-2009
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 2:14am
I always let him txt me then respond. If you send one just anytime, you may be interrupting dinner or something family orientated or heaven forbid she may check his cell if hes left it unattended. They will message you when they know it is safe on their end.
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