Do you ever doubt them?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Do you ever doubt them?
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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 8:43pm
Does anyone ever worry that their MM might not be telling you the truth when they say that they never (or rarely) have sex with their W?
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Registered: 02-18-2009
Thu, 03-26-2009 - 10:45pm

Yes, to a point.


My XAP always told me that he and his wife never have sex, after meeting his wife, I believe him. Just a feeling I get.

Katie--

Mama to Alyse (5-12-05) and soon-to-be baby (e.d.d. 10-25-10)

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Registered: 10-23-2008
Thu, 03-26-2009 - 11:04pm

Think no matter what there will always be a litttle doubt - just the nature of being in an A. I'm sure it works both ways that they doubt us a little as well.


Try not to dwell on it b/c it would just make me crazy and I would rather enjoy the times we get to talk as well as spend together then worry about something I can't control.

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Registered: 11-26-2008
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 3:15am
If you go take a look at the EAS,AAS boards I think you'll get a pretty good idea. There are a lot of women over there who have been told certain things and were hurt by their MM's dishonesty. While there are some MM who ARE honest about those subjects, it seems unfortunately that the majority of them are liars. If they're willing to have an affair it proves they're deceitful, so how could you really believe what they have to say? Some (not all) guys will say anything to get what they want or to keep a good thing going (and yes the same applies to women too). Don't mean to sound like a sourpuss, just MHO..... :)
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Registered: 12-18-2008
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 8:08am

I think most of the AP I've had have mainly said to me what they thought I wanted to hear, rather than the truth. Because their goal is mainly to keep getting me into bed. Not that that's a big effort, LOL. But if you're cheating, dishonesty is pretty much ingrained in it, it seems to me.

-jana

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Registered: 12-12-2008
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 10:38am

There are times I doubt some of the things he tells me..I don't doubt how much they have sex...I don't doubt what he tells me about his life..What I do doubt is that he is happy with having just me as his AP...That I am enough...


He has talked about other women and just yesterday told me that his friend is 'hooking' him up to meet a friend of his to 'see how things go between them'.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2008
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 12:20pm
It would be better to take things with a pinch of salt.a lot will be said what you want to hear.if only it was possible to be the fly on the wall!! or be able to read their personal journals! since none of it is possible, be careful of what you see and hear.
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Registered: 03-07-2009
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 2:24pm
Sometimes there is some doubt.
maystone