Do you feel guilty about the BS?
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Do you feel guilty about the BS?
| Sat, 07-31-2010 - 1:40am |
Just a question I was pondering today - do you all feel guilty about the potential pain you could cause your AP's spouse?

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I feel slightly guilty, but obviously not enough to end things.
anotherseyes
I'm more worried at this point about the pain it will cause AP if he has a d-day.
AE - there, you said exactly what I
My AP's wife and him hadn't slept together for years before he found me.
When I read the BS board I do feel bad that they experience the pain they do.
In a nutshell....no.
Considering the responses on this thread, what do ya'll think of this:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlmyaffair&msg=58007.1&ctx=0
I feel guilty for both my H and my AP's W (or partner). But I would say I feel worse for my H as I have broken my promise to him. Although its interesting that vows about love and cherish and honour are broken all the time, but the vow about fidelity is held as more sacred somehow.
My AP has also told me how miserable his partner and he are, not much sex etc. I take all that with a grain of salt. If you are that unhappy- leave. He's a cake eater like me but it certainly suits him to say that he is unhappy at home, therefore he is with me.
We rarely discuss each other's partner or the marriage itself. We talk about kids, work, life, dreams, politics - everything but our partners. It makes us both uncomfortable.
Iggy
"Although its interesting that vows about love and cherish and honour are broken all the time, but the vow about fidelity is held as more sacred somehow."
ITA with this.
anotherseyes
I think it's because fidelity is so measurable.
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