do you go out in public w/your MM/MW?
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do you go out in public w/your MM/MW?
| Sat, 05-15-2004 - 2:32pm |
The reason I am asking this is that MM and I went out for drinks, and someone MM knows was there and came over to talk to him. It did feel a little awkward being introduced, and I thought MM overdid his explanation of who I was and why we were there, etc, etc...
After that happened, I realized that something so innocent as having drinks, when you both happen to be married, can make us feel so awkward(maybe it's guilt, not awkwardness). The whole incident got me to thinking that we both have a lot to lose by this being discovered. But to think of NEVER going out to a restaurant or to be able to go and have drinks is getting me down. It sort of feels like "jail" to not be able to go out. I'd appreciate hearing your stories and/or thoughts on being seen in public. How do you handle this?

dd
either dinner or just whatever..movie - drinks - we go out where we are sure no one
we know will run into us -
When we are local we have side streets or parks or parking lots that we meet at for
maybe 15 minutes of hi how are you stuff and then on with the rest of our day
we have been together 2 years and have NEVER had anyone just "run" into us -
however that does not mean we haven't been seen together by anyone because you
know we are never looking around at who is there ---- KWIM ??
But some of the places we have been are places neither one of us would ordinarily go
with our H or his W - so that makes it even more fun !!!
You get to really see what is out there - we have found some really dark and small bars that are perfect for spending time together, very private - and we have eaten at the weirdest named restaurant in town - we have driven thru some random parks that you just normally don't find if you are on the normal every day beaten path - but come off
that beaten path and you find some incredible places to spend some incredible time
with an incredible person....
Kikki
I went out with an old boyfriend a few times this winter (OM knew), who happens to be married, and it was kinda funny. Whenever we were out for drinks, his wife's friends always saw us. When we went out for lunch, my ex's friends always saw us. lol So here OM and I are being sooooo careful, and now my ex thinks I'm having an affair with my old boyfriend, lol!!!!
Lucky
If we were to be spotted frequently by the same person, perhaps I'd begin to worry!!!!!
I have been to 2 rodeos with MM. The first one, we never really were "together". He knew I was there, we made eye contact, it was great. I had gone out of town (3 hours) and so no one I knew was there, but the rodeo guys are like his family. The other rodeo I went to was also out of town. This time he came to me after he rode and we sat together for about an hour and watched the rodeo. The thing is, his mother-in-law was there!!!!! She knows me. So if she saw where he came out to sit, she knows we were there together!!!! MM's wife's family rodeos too, so it's a risk for us to do this. I thought this was a big sign for my side!!!!
Also, we are together everyday at school, but not as a couple.
Kitty