Do you go through this?

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Registered: 09-30-2003
Do you go through this?
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 7:52am
Me and my MM work together for 3 Days out of the week and we don't see each other for 4 days. He is off the first two days and I am off for the next two. For the last two weeks when he is off he does not call me at all and I don't call him either because he may be with W. When I am off he does not call me either, and I don't. Then we see each other at work and communication is back up until we are off again. We used to text, but now nothing. It is both of us though, it's like we won't budge, I don't know does anyone else go through this? Is it a pride thing on both of us?
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Registered: 10-23-2003
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:03am
Games and stubbornness only cause confusion and upset - communicate this concern with your OM and ask yourself why you are being so hard on eachother...

Let us know how it goes...

*hugs*

Liberal

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 8:55am
MM and I work together also, 5 days a week but we don't speak or see each other on the weekends. We are really both too busy with our families and social obligations. It drives me crazy because I really wish I could see or speak to him but that is the way it is. I have called him a few times on his cell but he never answers so sometimes I leave a message or sometimes I just hang up. I have had to hold myself back all the time when it comes to this. We pretty much know what the other is doing on days off and if I really needed to talk to him I could.
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Registered: 09-03-2003
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 9:16am
I'm in a similar situation as you, Sparkles. MM and I work together and talk Monday-Friday. We see each other sometimes at the gym on Saturdays but it's been a while since we've both been free to do that at the same time. I've gotten used to it. We've had a lot of three and four day weekends, especially lately, because of out-of-town trips that one or the other of us were taking and that's tough but you know what? It HAS gotten much easier than in the beginning. I've come to accept that I have to turn off that switch once the weekend comes and focus on my H. Honestly, if he were to call me on my cell on the weekend, it would feel weird. It's almost like I've separated my work self and my home self and he has no place in my home self. (Aside from my constant thoughts of him, which still won't go away!) He's too paranoid of getting caught to risk it anyway and, honestly, like me his weekends are just too busy. Again, this was all much harder in the beginning. Over time I've learned that once he's gone it's a whole lot easier. I'm able to enjoy my day without having to worry that he won't call when he's supposed to and he can't hurt me. I guess it's a protective measure I've put in place after being hurt so many times. It's almost gotten to the point that weekends ARE easier because I'm able to focus on something besides this A. It's almost like it's all just a dream or fantasy I've had when I'm with H. Still, I'm trying to synchronize my week-long vacation next summer with his because I don't want for me to be gone for a week, then come back and have him gone for a week. I also figure it'll be a lot easier to take him being out of town with W if I'm out of town with H as well!