Do you have a Big Poppa?

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Do you have a Big Poppa?
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Sun, 08-09-2009 - 11:39pm

Currently,

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Registered: 06-13-2006
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 1:42am

My AP and I regularly switch who pays for lunch or drinks. We buy small unnoticeable tokens for b-days and holidays.


I don't need or expect anything of him, I am just happy for the time we do get to spend together.

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Registered: 12-25-2008
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 8:19am
I work with my AP and he frequently buys me lunch every week. He bought cycling gloves for me, a large gift certificate to a spa, bottles of wine, etc. But what means more to me than anything are the quick phone calls on the weekend to let me know he is thinking about me . . .
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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 9:58am

It might be different for single OW and married women. A MM might feel more responsible for "showering" a single women with expensive presents, etc., to make up for the fact that she's alone much of the time. Wasn't there a day when a married man would actually "keep" a mistress - pay for an apartment and expenses etc.? I guess the financial world has changed a lot since then, and women expect to provide for themselves when they're single.

I also think it has to do with the financial situation of the MM or OM. Obviously, "big poppa" is very rich and this single OW has no problem taking huge gifts from him.

My OM is single and I'm married. He isn't rich at all and struggles financially sometimes. He normally springs for lunch. There have been times he was struggling more and I would pay for it sometimes, but in the 10 yrs. we've been involved he's bought lunch at least 90% of the time.

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 5:33pm
Why not be your own "Big Momma" ---- take care of yourself and not owe a thing to anyone else?
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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 6:05pm
The last time I saw my xap, he gave me 600.00 .. He even have
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 9:22pm
I can't imagine being a "kept woman!" My ap buys me meals, lunch or dinner (he's taken me out to 1 really nice dinner). He buys me occasional little things. He even took my dd shopping for school clothes. But, at the same time, I'm just as
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Registered: 05-17-2003
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 3:25am

Hi,


I'm unemployed as well, and have been for 8 months now...it really sucks big time, doesn't it?


AP/BF is very generous and I think he knows that it's been very hard for me, so yes...he does pay for most things. Whenever he comes over we usually order in, and he generally pays. Before my H moved out (and afterwards actually) he would rent us hotel rooms, and you know they're not cheap!

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Registered: 12-18-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 2:31pm

AP#3 travels on business and goes to NYC and S.F. once each year. Last year I went to both with him. He paid for everything and treated me like a queen - the best of everything! I never think of him as a 'big poppa' but I guess that's close.

Otherwise except for meals and drinks and hotel rooms, AP's don't pay for me - I don't want gifts or cards because that's how I got busted that time (a bracelet that I didn't even like, lol). The lifestyle H provides is great and all I need.

I don't really want to be a 'kept woman' because I like my freedom and taking $ or whatever seems icky to me - but whatever floats your boat.

-jana

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Registered: 11-18-2007
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 10:56am

I never