I work with my AP and he frequently buys me lunch every week. He bought cycling gloves for me, a large gift certificate to a spa, bottles of wine, etc. But what means more to me than anything are the quick phone calls on the weekend to let me know he is thinking about me . . .
It might be different for single OW and married women. A MM might feel more responsible for "showering" a single women with expensive presents, etc., to make up for the fact that she's alone much of the time. Wasn't there a day when a married man would actually "keep" a mistress - pay for an apartment and expenses etc.? I guess the financial world has changed a lot since then, and women expect to provide for themselves when they're single.
I also think it has to do with the financial situation of the MM or OM. Obviously, "big poppa" is very rich and this single OW has no problem taking huge gifts from him.
My OM is single and I'm married. He isn't rich at all and struggles financially sometimes. He normally springs for lunch. There have been times he was struggling more and I would pay for it sometimes, but in the 10 yrs. we've been involved he's bought lunch at least 90% of the time.
I can't imagine being a "kept woman!" My ap buys me meals, lunch or dinner (he's taken me out to 1 really nice dinner). He buys me occasional little things. He even took my dd shopping for school clothes. But, at the same time, I'm just as
I'm unemployed as well, and have been for 8 months now...it really sucks big time, doesn't it?
AP/BF is very generous and I think he knows that it's been very hard for me, so yes...he does pay for most things. Whenever he comes over we usually order in, and he generally pays. Before my H moved out (and afterwards actually) he would rent us hotel rooms, and you know they're not cheap!
AP#3 travels on business and goes to NYC and S.F. once each year. Last year I went to both with him. He paid for everything and treated me like a queen - the best of everything! I never think of him as a 'big poppa' but I guess that's close.
Otherwise except for meals and drinks and hotel rooms, AP's don't pay for me - I don't want gifts or cards because that's how I got busted that time (a bracelet that I didn't even like, lol). The lifestyle H provides is great and all I need.
I don't really want to be a 'kept woman' because I like my freedom and taking $ or whatever seems icky to me - but whatever floats your boat.
My AP and I regularly switch who pays for lunch or drinks. We buy small unnoticeable tokens for b-days and holidays.
I don't need or expect anything of him, I am just happy for the time we do get to spend together.
It might be different for single OW and married women. A MM might feel more responsible for "showering" a single women with expensive presents, etc., to make up for the fact that she's alone much of the time. Wasn't there a day when a married man would actually "keep" a mistress - pay for an apartment and expenses etc.? I guess the financial world has changed a lot since then, and women expect to provide for themselves when they're single.
I also think it has to do with the financial situation of the MM or OM. Obviously, "big poppa" is very rich and this single OW has no problem taking huge gifts from him.
My OM is single and I'm married. He isn't rich at all and struggles financially sometimes. He normally springs for lunch. There have been times he was struggling more and I would pay for it sometimes, but in the 10 yrs. we've been involved he's bought lunch at least 90% of the time.
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I'm unemployed as well, and have been for 8 months now...it really sucks big time, doesn't it?
AP/BF is very generous and I think he knows that it's been very hard for me, so yes...he does pay for most things. Whenever he comes over we usually order in, and he generally pays. Before my H moved out (and afterwards actually) he would rent us hotel rooms, and you know they're not cheap!
AP#3 travels on business and goes to NYC and S.F. once each year. Last year I went to both with him. He paid for everything and treated me like a queen - the best of everything! I never think of him as a 'big poppa' but I guess that's close.
Otherwise except for meals and drinks and hotel rooms, AP's don't pay for me - I don't want gifts or cards because that's how I got busted that time (a bracelet that I didn't even like, lol). The lifestyle H provides is great and all I need.
I don't really want to be a 'kept woman' because I like my freedom and taking $ or whatever seems icky to me - but whatever floats your boat.
-jana
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