do you have a lot unsaid?

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Registered: 06-01-2008
do you have a lot unsaid?
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Sat, 02-28-2009 - 11:58am

I work with AP and we've been together on and off for 2.5 years.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 1:44pm
Well, I think it is always better to get things out in the open, as far as I am concerned. My ap and i keep things real, and if one of us need to talk about something, the other is open to it. So, yes, I think you should ask what you need to ask, or say what you want to say, at least for your piece of mind. Just bring it up, next time you are together, not over the phone, email, or texting, that causes confusion. Tell him you are feeling the need to talk, I always preface a conversation like this with, "girly talk alert", or something stupid like that, he just laughs, but he
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Registered: 11-12-2008
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 2:19pm
Yeah,its always better to talk it out.It not only not creates confusion but also keeps misunderstandings afar which are root cause of differences.One can assume something while the reality is far from it.
I am not emotionally involved but i guess when you are,you need to talk openly and honestly.Good communication has always been the key.
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Registered: 06-01-2008
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 5:10pm

One can assume something while the reality is far from it.


Boy, you're so right with this one.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 5:48am

" One can assume something while the reality is far from it."

Sooo very right.This is exactly the problem which my AP is facing with his STBX W.She just doesnt want to accept that their M is over and is giving a really hard time to my AP and me.Yey,she knows me now!!

We never had this problem as my AP was very open to communication from the get go.He has,i must say,excellent communication skills which was one of the things which sucked me in to him.My previous bfs always left stuff unsaid which did nothing but ruin the relationship.we ( my xbfs and me ) always ended up hating each other as the issues were never resolved or talked out.Love my AP for this.I am very lucky in this as he so open even when the W is creating lot of drama.