do you like to hear about his W/Gf/etc.?
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do you like to hear about his W/Gf/etc.?
| Mon, 10-06-2008 - 10:07pm |
I typically like to know what he does with his GF or how their relationship is going, but now that they are getting an apartment together and he's talking about how they went shopping for this or looking for that I am finding that maybe I should stop being so curious about their life together. i dont think i can handle it anymore as i get really aggravated when he brings her up. do you like to hear about their life together or do you prefer it is kept a mystery?

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MM and I have been together for so long, our families are so intertwined.
My AP has never mentioned his W and their sex life but has talked about how frustrated he becomes with her.
Good lord, why on earth would I want to know about the W? I see some posters on forums talk about how their AP runs their W down all the time and I would just not have that. If a guy can talk so disrespectfully about the woman he married without doing her the kindness of divorcing her, what would he be saying about *me*?
I have no interest in her, although I know her name. Before we were PA we both talked about our relationships and he said it was beyond counselling. He told me once he didn't think she was capable of managing the practicalities on her own and after I'd told him what I thought of such patronising c**p, we've not talked about her since.
My exBF cheated on me and I got some twisted revenge by cheating on her with him; but he would really say the vilest things about her and laugh about how she thought they were getting married. As he also proposed to me, I could imagine him saying all the same nasty things to her. In my book, a decent man would never badmouth his women.
I also know some women just have to know and hear these things... but I don't want to torment myself with any images.
Edited 12/1/2008 2:49 am ET by lacey72
I think this is awesome question, and I couldn't wait to hear what everyone had to say.
My MM and W and I all worked together at one time, not now, so I know her, but I got w/ AP before I knew her. I think that she was transferred to AP's and my division on purpose. We were very open that we were together, despite the fact that at the time we were both M. I think that people wanted to see what would happen. Wheew I am glad that's over.
My Ap doesn't talk about her unless I ask. Which I do seldom. They have been in a sexless M long before I came along, so I know what going through the motions is like. It's very hard to live in the same house w/ someone that you don't want to be w/.
I don't think, no strike that, I KNOW I couldn't handle this R if things were any different. I couldn't take thinking about them having sex, and going grocery shopping together. I am SO grateful it's not like that. Sometimes I am curious about her mistakes, so I don't make them too, but other than that, ignorance is bliss!
ok, I am married he is single, but been dating a girl for about 4 years.
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