Do you love your OM/MM?
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Do you love your OM/MM?
| Fri, 07-18-2003 - 7:56pm |
Do you love your OM/MM?
- Yes
- No
You will be able to change your vote.
| Fri, 07-18-2003 - 7:56pm |
You will be able to change your vote.
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I was talking to a friend of mine who is in a new relationship. She just got out of a horrible relationship. She says that she has fallen for this new guy...
It made me think. When I met OM, I felt "lust". Easily confused with Love. Perhaps what we feel for the OM/MM is lust?
Please answer this poll honestly... I'm just figuring this out myself!
I'd like to have some answers that help! And any responses would be great!
~passion
I didn't even consider the emotions in the beginning, well neither of us did, it was as you said, lust. After about 3 or 4 months I felt us drawing closer (which is hard to explain - the talking, actions, body language, even the "aura" felt different). I tried compartmentalizing (a box for everything in my brain - with emotions for/with MM in one), which helped at first. I also had my guard up, a wall, and was reluctant to let it down, to get really close with MM, to feel the good and not-so-good emotions. How could I allow myself to love someone who is committed to staying in his M? Especially when I knew I would be D'ing (how mentally draining that can be).
Anyone who knows me from months ago, knows I used to often muse, analyze, research - anything to try to understand! But I've come to accept I do love MM, unconditionally. For his friendship, for his support, for his humor, for the way he respects me, for our incredible sex together, for the everything we do together, for the exact way he is, for his accepting me the way I am, for wanting him to be happy in what he thinks is best for him, and despite that he is M. I love MM, not the relationship. Even if I can still lust, I'm no longer obsessing, daydreaming, wondering...it's love, it's not going to disipate anytime soon, and I'm happy with loving him because for me, right now, the love, and MM, is good for me.
Passion, try not to think on it too much - enjoy what you have with your guy one day at a time - eventually, if it is love, it will come to you and you'll know.
Hugs,
Meow
H and I used to have great sex, until I wasn't in love with him anymore.
=)
Your post sounds like it could have been written by me.
I'm in an odd spot right now. I'm not sure what it is,
but I'm trying to figure it out right now! So, I just
wanted to ask this question because hearing others
helps me through this... time of whatever I'm going through!
Thanks so much for your reply:) ~passion
Confusing past couple of days for me...
Perhaps it's because H has left for the
weekend? I don't know.. lol I'm just
at the point of questioning things..
And like Meow, I tend to analize EVERYTHING! lol
Thanks, ~passion
I voted yes... but I must admit I went through a lot to get there. As you probably know... I've been seeing MM for just over 3 years now and in the beginning I think it was very much lust and infatuation... I wanted him, I needed him. But it was more so much the attention that he was giving me. Once I got over this stage... I felt strong enough to know that I had a great friendship... however over time and the things that we have been through together have emotionally bonded me to this man and while I denied it for some time... I do now believe that I love him and it's given me a great amount of strength to know that I could love like this again. To be able to give my love so freely and not feel the need to be asking for something in return.
I hope that I've made sense in some small way.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Sweet
Co-Community Leader My
The is a fine line between love an lust! I think everyone knows that...it seems to get muddled sometimes...but it is always there!
I know when OM and I first started seeing each other 3 years ago I would not ever thought that I would fall for him...a year into it I realized that I had..now things are different, because I believe he just told me he loved me to make me happy! I don't believe that he was ever in love with me! Live and learn...there is always more to do in life than just live for one person!
Maybe your friend knows the difference and just wants to frolic in la la land for a little while! LOL...I know I like to go there from time to time! Have a great one! Oh BTW..I voted NO! Red
Lucky
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