Do you regret your affair?
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| Wed, 05-27-2009 - 6:59pm |
Hi ladies,
You might not remember me. I posted several weeks ago. To give you a recap: I'm 35, no kids, married for almost 4 years. My husband is a wonderful person, but we lack sexual chemistry. I do not want to divorce or separate. At the same time, I find it daunting to think that I may never have a fulfilling sex life. We want kids and I keep telling myself that the reason we don't have kids is the lack of a sex life. I know that real reason is me being conflicted about a sexless - but otherwise fulfilling - marriage.
When I posted back in mid-April, I had a crush on a coworker. Nothing had happened and I was avoiding him for that very reason. Nothing has happened physically. Although I don't feel like I'm "playing with fire" right now, I think I'm slowly lighting that match. I find myself thinking about him more. I told him that I was taking a walk around lunch time yesterday (I didn't invite him) and he found me at noon time and we took a short walk together and had a really nice time. Today, he sat next to me at a meeting (trust me, it was deliberate, not random)

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great question
sw pov here, no longer in a, although obviously still on my mind at times
regrets...mid 40's and i have never been m. why, because i have seen
so many mm that have affairs, and i have been involved in a few
when i was younger. going on 10 yrs of physical celebacy at this point
at least with a
I haven't had a chance to check this board since I started this thread a few days ago. Thank you all so much for responding so openly and honestly to my very candid question. It really means a lot to me.
Withclarity - you asked me if I ever did a pros and cons list. Yes, I did, but as you can see, it didn't help me very much ;-)
"Sex not being good is not a reason to leave a marriage or cheat...that can be fixed easily...to have an affair because of it is a cop out!!"
I have to strongly disagree with this statement. Sex
Edited 6/12/2009 6:35 pm ET by woodyjohnson
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