do you talk about your sex lives?
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do you talk about your sex lives?
| Wed, 05-19-2004 - 10:22am |
MM yesterday was asking questions about my sex life w/H and then telling me that his W "wanted a little" the other night (after having some afternoon delight w/me!) I have told him in the past I am uncomfortable talking about this and would rather not hear when he and his W do!
just wondering what everyone else's thoughts are? it's really bugging me...my friend thinks he's feeling a bit guilty and helps to keep it in perspective for what it is.

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We kind of just have an understanding that we just don't bring it up. If we are all together (since the 4 of us are all friends) I cringe if his wife makes a remark about sex. MM and I just kind of give each other the eye if it gets brought up. He just knows I hate to hear it.
Good question.
Another note about my weekend with H. After I got back and talked to mm he did ask how it went. I said "fine". Then he had to go farther and say "you must have gotten lucky" I replied with "Well yeah, Friday night Sat morn and sat night were good, Sunday was a dud" I immediately felt like that was too much info and felt bad. SO I said "well if I had gone and NOT gotten any I would have had no choice but to file for a divorce!" I hope that smoothed things over for him, but I wish I hadn't been so candid on the frequency>
dd
It's funny you say that - because in the past MM has "encouraged" me to be the aggresser with my H. And, honestly - it's just not there for me and H. I have a hard time even doing the weekly 'duty intimate' thing without it wanting me be with MM.
Does anyone think I'm overreacting being this upset (okay, I do have PMS..I admit) I cried for hours yesterday PM thinking about him and W. (he also made the comment that they "snuggle" afterwards) ARGHHHHH!!!
well MM and I don't really "talk" about our sex lives with our spouses, but it has come up while having sex with each other as an ego boost for both of us.. like you're so much better than my wife. or I would say does your wife do this for you? he says she doesn't do oral on him. (poor thing)!! and he's asked me if his is bigger than my H..LOL.. (which it is)!!(blushing)!! Then one time I said man your wife is soo lucky to have this every night if she wanted, he responded with no she doesn't get it, I save it for you!! awww!! then he asks if he's better then my H, which he is.. and he said he doesn't want to have sex with his wife just me. and i'm all he thinks about.
But if the subject came up in a normal conversation, I think I would feel uncomfortable..
dd
KC
from time to time - but I don't like to have things we "can't" talk about - I also learn a lot about him from what he will tell me, though it's usually not much or not often LOL
I think it also leaves things realistic too ---
Remembering he has this other life reminds me that I have mine as well and therefore
I don't get high expectations or jealousy or envy over something that is a normal occurance in a M - If I start getting upset or sad when he has sex with his W - then I might think I am having deeper feelings in which I would have to pursue MM in a way in which I realistically cannot ---
KWIM -
sure it sometimes hurts to hear about it but I also know there is a HUUUUUGGGGEEEEE
difference in the type of sexual R he has with her and what he has with me -
Kikki
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