Do you think your MM is your soulmate?

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Do you think your MM is your soulmate?
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Thu, 01-08-2004 - 11:48am
I have seen so many women on here post that their MM is their “soulmate.” Now I am not trying to offend anyone, but that sentiment always sounded so ridiculous to me when mentioned within the context of an A. I am not saying I don’t believe in the idea of a soulmate -- not saying I do either (I do think I lean toward the latter), but I always wondered how someone could consider someone their soulmate when they are involved in such a constrained relationship. I mean COME ON, how can you know someone is your soulmate if you do not know “all” of him or her? I personally think many people are caught up in a delusion.

Any thoughts?

Am I cynical today, or what?!!! What happened to the romantic me?!! See what these As do to people!!!

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 07-27-2003
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 3:28pm
jenn...well you told me!! LOL I'm truly happy that you believe -- must be a wonderful feeling.

OK, I'm off for the day. Enjoy the rest of your afternoon ladies.

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 10-28-2003
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 5:30pm
Gosh, I would say yes, but mainly because I thought soul mates exist and that was until I meant MM. The way I FEEL him, and he I.. I have never ever felt before, even with those I thought were soul mates before. I know I will end up with him, even if it is not physically. And I am not falling in love, but rather feeling a love, that no one ever before him has ever given, a very unconditional one. And my question now, is how am I going to keep living, knowing that he will never be the 'whole' of my life, that I will always be the OW and he the MM, to protect those around us that we care about.......

Wanting to scream at the moment from a bottom curve..

Mitz.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 01-08-2004 - 5:49pm
I'm not sure about the soulmate thing, but my connection with MM is stronger than any I've felt with any man ever. It's more than sexual compatibility-it's hard to explain. If we can't see each other for more than a few days, I start to dwell on our last encounter so much that I'm afraid I will build him up in my head to a point he couldn't live up to. Kind of like when people obsess about a celebrity and when they finally meet them it is a letdown. That has never happened with me and MM. When I finally see him again, the feeling of connectedness is always there. I've never felt this with anyone else, it feels so right. Even though I know we can't be together in a traditional way, I'm so happy to have him in my life as a friend and lover. I really enjoy his company-not just the sex.
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Registered: 09-22-2003
Mon, 01-12-2004 - 3:08pm
I believe that everyone has a soulmate. I also think that we don't always end up with the soulmate that was intended for us. MM knows me better than I know myself. There are coincedences in our lives that tell me that we are supposed to be together. A few are, one is the fact that my dad used to work at this convent as a security guard. While my dad worked there, so did MM as a teenager. This was almost twenty years ago. MM does toy collections as a hobby. Buying and selling. There were times when he was at places in my neighborhood during sales. I was probably a teen myself at the time. Finally, we met at work. We started the same day. Before we actually talked, there were several steps that we had to go through to get the job. He remembers me at one part where he actually sat behind me because he says that he thought I was cute. He also thought that I was a b**ch. I don't remember him there, but I do remember him at orientation the day before we actually started. I remember the guy in charge saying, "if you see anyone who will be working with you, same place, same time, go ahead and introduce yourselves." I was looking around, and a few desks over to my left, there was MM. I didn't go introduce myself, because I was to shy. He doesn't remember me there. Than the following day, as we were walking through the building with the twenty or so people, three names were called out. Mine, MM's, and this other guy. We were working in the same section, and from then on, MM and I were inseperable. Friends at first, then we got closer, and then here we are now. I think things are supposed to be this way. Perhaps not being together now, which is my fondest wish. Perhaps later in life, or our next lives.

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