Do you use the "L" word with each other?
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Do you use the "L" word with each other?
| Mon, 05-24-2004 - 2:22pm |
Just wondering how many of you have taken the big step and started telling your other person that you loved them? If so, how long did it take you? Who said it first? Was the sentiment returned? Has it changed your relationship?
For me, it took every bit of courage I have and nearly three years to get the words out of my mouth! Luckily the feelings were returned and we were able to finally put a long term plan together for our relationship. I had no idea that it would changes things (luckily for the better) in such a profound way!
So what's your story?

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He said it first...I was floored.
I do love him and am in love with him...
but now that he's upset with me it makes me wonder was it all a game on his part. I still Love him no matter what happens. I just hope that he will remembe his feelings and come around and call me and let me know if it;s over or not..
I LOVE HIM
I was the first to put it in words, and it took me about 2 months to get there. But, we knew each other for over a year before that and were very good friends for months before the A started. It never WOULD have started if I hadn't developed strong feelings of admiration for him already. He told me a little over a month later, for my birthday, lol. And it really was okay that he didn't rush to say it. He truly cherished and appreciated that I loved him. He did care deeply for me, that I knew. That was good enough. I was amazed that he allowed the relationship to carry on to that level, to tell you the truth. I really thought I was giving 'us' a kiss of death by proclaiming my love for him, so when he didn't turn tail and run, I knew I was more than a piece of ass to him. For him to allow himself to love me back has amazed me all along.
Lucky
Edited 5/24/2004 3:52 pm ET ET by luckyme814
However, I have said to him on numerous times you know that I'm falling in love with you, and he'll return those words to me... but for the actual "I love you"... nope. I guess that way it's safe, but allowing the other person to know there is a bond growing.
Yet I say it to my DH all the time, and don't romantically, physically, or emotionally love him at all! OY!
jen
But I never say NEVER
dd
Edited 5/24/2004 4:53 pm ET ET by deedee5678
I said the I love you's first because I knew MM was waiting for me to say it before he would - this took me 8 months into our A and after our first period of long (mutual NC)
At first MM hesitated -- possibly unsure if his feelings were love and not maybe lust or
confusion -- but once he said those magical words and saw how it softened me and made me more loving and appreciative of all that he gives me he opened up immediately and has not stopped
Now we use the Love word along with lots of other words of adoration about each other and each and every time I hear the words they instantly bring a smile to my face -
If it has changed our relationship it has helped me find contentment and safety within the EMA --
I have days and days of just real mellow and happy feelings - which I know are from knowing there is this one person who is out there loving me from afar -
I agree it does take a great deal of courage to express yourself this way because of many factors -- but it does feel absolutely amazing to know I am so important to someone who is so important to me
Kikki
interesting thought hmmmmm
lol
dd
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