Do you wear your wedding ring?

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Registered: 04-05-2004
Do you wear your wedding ring?
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 6:16pm
When you are with your OM/MM, do you take off your ring? Does he take off his?

I have been taking mine off just because I do not like to see it flashing in my face especially during those intimate moments. Also, I simply want to focus on my OM and do not want either of us to have a reminder of reality.

How do you handle it?

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 6:35pm

Hi tropics,


I have my engagement ring, wedding ring and eternity ring... all three are always on my finger when I'm with MM... just as his wedding ring never comes off his.


We know we are both married... and to be honest taking off the rings isn't going to change that... that's how I feel anyway... and believe it or not... more often than not... I barely notice MM's wedding ring... I know it's gold... but I've never really looked at it.


We've talked about it... and he's told me he will not take it off... while he is married, there it remains... and I'm respectful of that... he knows mine are there and would never ask me to take them off.


I guess it's all about the acceptance of your relationship and what you want out of it... MM and I accept what we have and are not looking for an out of our marriages... so the rings... are all part and parcel of that.


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Registered: 02-17-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:04pm
I usually take it off, but sometimes I forget. I never know what I should do though, so it's a good question. He never wears his.
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Registered: 04-01-2004
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:40pm
I always wear mine -

MM does not wear a ring since we have been in our EMA

I would worry I would lose my rings if I ever removed them - or forget to put them back on....

Kikki -

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Thu, 05-06-2004 - 10:54pm
Mine stays on, but i tend to keep that hand back behind me or under me when we are together. Om actually admired it once. He doesnt wear a wedding band. I dont know if he has one or not. I his line of work jewelry could be a hazzard tho.
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Registered: 04-16-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 8:43am
Good question....

cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 8:52am
I always wear my rings and MM always has his on. Actually I find it kind of sexy and if I see his hand on my body with the ring on, for some reason I really get turned on by it. Maybe because of the fact that my H doesn't wear his ring. Its just thrown in the night table drawer.
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Registered: 10-28-2003
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:03am
A ring is a ring, but it is also the sign of your marriage. BUT both of you know you are married, so taking off the ring will not make you unmarried... We wear ours when we are together or not, as this can not change... WE ARE MARRIED to wonderful people by the way!!!

Have a good Friday everyone!

Mitzy

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:03am
I always wear my wedding ring. A few months ago when we were together mm was playing with my ring, running his fingers over it and moving it back and forth. He never said anything but I wonder what he was thinking. He never wears a ring, he lost his shortly after getting married 23 years ago. He does wear a watch and he used to wear a medal around his neck but I haven't seen it in a long time. He went on a family vacation to Cancun a couple of weeks ago and brought me back a ring. He has never given me anything so this was a surprise. I am not reading into it because we work together, he is my boss and he brought back something for all the girls in the office. 2 girls got errings and 2 got pendants. I got a ring.
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Registered: 02-18-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 9:50am
My MM almost always wears his ring. I don't even notice it most of the time. He sometimes takes it off if we are going out to dinner or something. He sometimes notices it and asks why I didn't remind him to take it off, but I never have. I know he is married, and a ring around his finger means nothing when I know I have his heart.
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Registered: 04-26-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 10:31am
I dont wear my wedding ring anymore...maybe once a month. I probably would take it off though if I knew I was going to be with OM.

Soleil

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