Do you/AP feel insecure?
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| Mon, 01-12-2009 - 9:34am |
AP and i both feel insecure , at times.
My insecurity arises from his STBX though being 6 years older than me,she is gorgeous,slim and all! I would be in the fat category,like the majority of the americans( lol!) .The holidays were huge for me as i really dreaded that AP and his STBX W would come close together ( but they decided on D).those few days really took a toll on me.
My AP also has some inseurities .He believes that i wouldnt wait for him till his D is final.His D could linger on for a while as his kids are young and there would be a nice custoday battle.His STBX W works a full day but earns minimal to provide for 2 kids especially in this economy.When he brings this topic in, i again get insecure,sigh.What if he gives up and ends up staying M??
Anyone else having insecurities? Or anyone who feels secure in there R with AP?It would be nice to hear some encouraging stories.

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"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
I firmly believe that he made that comment purely out of frustration.
He is trying so hard to be everything to everyone.
As is obvious from my post this morning - I am definitely feeling insecure and hopefully thinking AP's actions are for the same reason.
Want to talk to him about it but - tends to disappear and not take calls when I try - so we are supposed to get together this Sat - although that could be falling apart due to he may have to work
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
and loving to answer your question...yes, i think we both are..me i've become insecure because my feelings have gotten deeper for him over time and i do acknowledge and know he cannot provide me with what i need out of a partner...every little thing he does to disappoint me makes me even more insecure.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
I am a S M in A with MW for more than 20 years.Being the S one is tough.It took me a while to accept my position in which i am very content.One of the toughest things for me to overcome was 'acceptance'.Acceptance of the fact that she is M which brings itself to the acceptance of many things :). I dont ask what she cant give. To accept this one sentence is very difficult but if you know thats the man/woman you want to be with,it becomes easy.
You might be asking what he cant give.So, he is letting you go which in itself means that he is not leaving his M.If thats the man you want to be with then you have to decide ,its nothing to do with him.If you are looking for M, leave this guy.If not,then accept the fact.
In my days,i was free to date, could have done behind her back or at my free will BUT i chose and accepted.Ever since i did that,i am very happy and dont regret my decision.
To let someone go whom you love is more tough than to be the one on receiving end.He is right.You believing him to be in a better place is wrong.
God Bless.
fullhalfquarter, thanks for the advice..but i Do not want marriage at all...and never asked that of him...I always contend and will stick by that I DO NOT want him to leave his marriage for me....that's not it...I ask of him to be more considerate of my feelings is all....if someone cannot do that then, I have to take a step back...however, I can become extra and pouty and upset by the little things.
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss
Oh sweetie -
I so wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better for you - but you know that's just not how it works.
You have made a decision to be in an A with a M man - ok - so did I - BTDT.
Tyger, if there is no possibility that he will leave his wife, then you have to let this go.
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