does absense make the heart grow fonder?

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Registered: 06-08-2007
does absense make the heart grow fonder?
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Sat, 10-04-2008 - 10:51am
at point in my affair AP and i could see each other 3 days a week, and talk on the phone 4 days a week. things changed, and we couldn't see or talk to one another as much. we stopped contact for almost 3 weeks. he got in touch with me. before he would never really work to hard for us. now since things changed and we both have to work for us, he never lets an email go unanswered, he never ignores me, and when he says he'll be on messanger, he's there. last week, for him messanger wasn't enough, he surprised me by coming by in person and we went out to lunch. next week we are seeing each other again and going out to lunch. it seems like our relationship is stronger and more passionate. we really want to be with one another. it's not about sex, understanding one another. we haven't been intimate in almost 2 months,

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 11:32am
Absence can make the heart grow anxious and fearful. Sounds like he's probably easy to manipulate. ;-) That could come in handy.
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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 6:59pm
I always said yes but my AP always said "out of sight, out of mind."
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 8:21pm
it see,s he's so accomadating to my needs and nothing gets ignored or put off. i love it. seems like before we would take each other for granted where as now we don't.
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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sat, 10-04-2008 - 11:30pm
that's good. actually, right now, we're testing if absence makes the heart fonder or not, because he said he thought we needed to stay away from each other for awhile, and this is day 10 with no contact from him, which has never happened in 6 years.
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Registered: 06-06-2008
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 1:59am
Man you must be on pins and needles. Keep the faith! He'll call.
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Registered: 10-10-2006
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 4:19am
I'd faint if he did. We rarely use the phone.
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Registered: 01-27-2008
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 4:44am

i do beleive it does, my ap is in constant contact via text, email etc. but if we go a week without seeing each other he texts more, and makes me know how needy he is feeling. when we do see each other he is full of emotions and forever tells me what a nightmare he has been going through not seeing me. I must admit its nice, but when i went on my holidays he hated every minute of it, and since then he says he realises just how much i have changed his life, and how much he needs me near him and how much he knows that in the future i definatly need to be a part of his life. .....................awww so so sweet.


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Registered: 10-03-2007
Sun, 10-05-2008 - 8:03am
for some it can while for some it is rightly out of sight ,out of mind. Its different for different siyuations,i guess and what has been invested in.
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Registered: 06-06-2008
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 12:49am
Keep the faith Girl! Chin up, suck in that gut, and let's do this thing! You can make it. You'll see one way or another, it WILL work itself out.
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Registered: 10-10-2006
Mon, 10-06-2008 - 12:14pm
thanx...i left him a phone message today.next monday is his b-day and the monday after is mine.

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