Does anyone else obsess?

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Does anyone else obsess?
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 2:40pm
Does anyone else obsess when thier OP doesn't call right back (or calls late in the day?) I have left 2 vm's for MM today (I'm sure he's busy...) but, my mind starts to wonder and I keep waiting for my cell-phone to ring. I need words of encouragement! I start thinking his W found out, he wants to end it etc. Things have been fine - we talked for a long time yesterday..we typically talk everyday - I just hate it when he doesn't call right back!
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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 10:02pm
Oh Red,

I wish there was something I could do or say to make you feel better. But, I don't think there is. I just want you to know (although, I don't post much) I've been following your posts, story etc. You, my friend, are an AMAZING women!! You give out great advise, have continued to hang here, offered hugs to others and from my perspective, have been so strong!

Do I think he is obsessing over you? Yes. Do I think he misses you? Yes. Do I think he misses those thongs of yours? Yes. Am I making you feel anybetter? Probably not. Time heals all wounds.

There are seven (??) stages to get through after a major loss..anger, denial, sadness....right into acceptance. (Okay, LOL - I don't remember them all) You'll get there sweetie - stay strong, focus on YOU, focus on the kids - be good to yourself - cry if you need to..it's all part of healing.

Take care my friend,

Ducks

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Mon, 04-26-2004 - 10:21pm
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((RED))))))))))))))))))))))))



I can't make it better, but you aren't alone.



Cazrida

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 7:16am
Rain...Thank you for the beautiful words.
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 7:59am
Rain,

I love it when we get the male perspective. You did a lot to ease my mind. We don't contact each other like most people on this board, so I guess I MIGHT be lucky in that respect. I don't wakeup and think I am going to hear from him everyday. We never email or text, although I am going to suggest he get a yahoo acct like me so we can. My mm is intensely busy with his position in our company, but that doesn't stop me from obsessing. I worry though that he feels guilty at times since that was one of his reasons for ending it back in Dec. Of course since then he has professed strong feelings for me ect.. But there are things you just can't compete with and I do fear losing him because of one of those factors.

I currently havn't seen him since last Wednesday, and he has gone on a overnight business trip since. We spoke about getting together tomorrow, if that don't work out I know I will be thinking the worst because he always makes time for me around now. I haven't even talked to him or had any contact since Friday. But I am used to this, so where I guess some of you would be freaking out, I am only tenative in my thinking about what will happen tomorrow. I won't call him today, but it sure would be nice if he called me!

NRY - You KNOW he'll call and he is thinking about you!

deedee

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 8:58am
Well today marks 2 weeks to the day since I've heard from MM. I really hope I hear from him today. Or soon. It hurts not to know whats going on. I can't really imagine that he wants to give up what we have. We give things to each other that no one else can.

Dusty
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 10:33am
Rain - I just wanted to say thank you. Your post is amazing, and if my MM is thinking just half of those things, then I feel so much better!
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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 11:46am
I loved your letter as well. I keep reading it as I am obsessing as i write this. I emailed MM this morning, a little after 8:00 and still nothing back from him. Usually he is prompt ( well I'll say within 30 mins). So I am worried, upset, etc. He does not have his out of office on ... so again, I need your letter to at least give me a sense of hope that he is busy, in meeting(s),etc. I do have an email that he sent me yesterday- I have not opened it yet and at this point am chicken to do it. I don't THINK it's a "good-bye" email as ours were pretty flirty through out the day, but for some reason I am very hesitant to open it. That's why I started a brand new one this morning about a work issue I have (we talk about stuff like this and bounce ideas off each other, etc).

Where IS that little white envelope???????????

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 12:15pm
Sweetie....OPEN THAT EMAIL!!!!!

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Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:11pm
NRY- I laughed when I read your post. And believe me, I needed that laugh so before I go ANY futher with this post, I need to say: THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!! :-)

I opened the email after lunch. ( remember this was written and sent to me yesterday) this is what he wrote ( to my response if he had available 'playtime' this week- which as you know turns out to be drinks, hug and a kiss...) ANYHOW, here's his response ( and oh by the way- we both love van halen, so think the way he signed off was cute? I don't know...

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Let me look at my calendar at home because unfortunately I have some

things right after work this week.

I'll let you know tomorrow.

I'm outta here.

Sincerely,

Eddie Van Halen

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I took this as a 'kiss-off' email but I know having 4 kids he is busy, busy.

Anyhow, he sent me another one this afternoon, but again- I am chicken- sh- - to open it. I fear it will say- "no time for you this week or ever again. this is over, etc, etc." I know I'm rambling now but my gut tells me this is not an email I want to open. So, I'm 40 yrs old and acting like a teenager who is getting dumped!

Oh- pathetic. I need to look in the mirror and give myself a good slap! Ha Ha!!!

Thanks NRY!!!

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Wed, 04-28-2004 - 7:48am
I am going to get in my car and drive to where you are and make your little fingers open that other email.
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