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does anyone regret it?
| Sun, 07-20-2003 - 7:01pm |
In the whole scheme of things, do ya'll regret getting involved with OM? Or is it worth every minute?
I am on the verge of pouncing on OM for the first time and just want to see where you all stand now looking back at your initial decision.
Thanks!
I am on the verge of pouncing on OM for the first time and just want to see where you all stand now looking back at your initial decision.
Thanks!

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friends for a while but not truly finding what
we have in one another at a better time. But I
do not regret any moment spent with him, any
moment spent talking w/ him... I do not regret
what we have grown into. We've been thru a lot
as friends and as more and I love how we are
together; love the strong bond that has been
formed.
Even if this ends with me heartbroken... or him,
I know that if anything, I've been blessed to have
the opportunity to experience a R like this which
is truly unlike any other I've had before and that
a long time ago I realized how vulnerable we both
are in this sit. and if it ends... well, I've learned
so much from it already and will always love the
bond and R we have together.
For me... I don't regret a single thing... but then I don't regret hardly anything I've done in my lifetime. On the other hand... I wouldn't encourage it either.
As I said... I don't regret my decision to enter this EMA... but it's certainly not been easy... the emotions are so more intense than in a normal relationship, they feel like they are amplified 100% and this makes the ups so wonderful that you feel like your flying, but the downs just feel like you've lost your wings and you crash back to earth... it really is a rollercoaster ride.
I never meant to fall in love... but I have... but in the process... I learned also to be able to give that love so freely and while it's not spoken... in many ways... I feel it returned and therefore don't feel the need to have it spoken.
I also found that I learned a lot about myself and discovered who I really am and in the process also to be able to understand the men in my life so much better.
Would I do it again knowing the concequenses... hell yes!!! but that's me and will always advise anyone else to think long and hard about it before walking into one. You have to be sure you are ready for everything... and I mean everything. The risks, the heartaches, the hurt as they may all be there.
Lets us know what road you decide to take and should you chose this one... we will be here for you.
luv and hugs
Sweet
Edited 7/20/2003 7:33:38 PM ET by cl-sweetc69
Sweet
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b/c you don't feel 'calm' and 'clear' about your
life. I go through diff. periods of time where I
am very unclear on what to do or where a certain
sit. is going. If none of us ever had doubts or
was certain on EVERYTHING, how boring would that
be?!;o)
I totally regret it... I don't feel guilty about it, which is weird but I regret it, life was easier before my MM didn't show me all my H's faults and I didn't notice them and when MM showed me how I should be treated other then how my H was taking me for granted. And since my h found out about my A he's way different almost depressed, and I believe I've done way too much damage to our marriage. I could never tell my H that I actually have slept with OM, so I can never totally be truthful about my A and start working on our marriage. My H has changed a lot and I have too. In all my other relationships when things started going bad, I just got out, for some reason MM has some hold on me that's ridiculous, I hate it but I don't know what to do about it, cuz my H makes me so miserable that MM is my only relief from this household
So do I regret it yes...
=)
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