does anyone worry about rumors?
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does anyone worry about rumors?
| Mon, 04-26-2004 - 3:58pm |
Both MM and I think we are being SOO, SOOO careful, but then again, we wonder if there are rumors going around. I'm worried maybe we have our heads in the sand, or clouds is more like it. Especially, around a workplace, it seems like people just LOVE to gossip and spread rumors. Have any of you ever had rumors start, and if so, how did you squelch/deny/keep 'em from spreading like wildfire?

Soleil
I worked with my OM. Rumors started about us because we hung out alot. It all started as a friendship - neither of us were looking for anything to happen. I never hid the fact that I hung out with him from my H. But, the H never knew where it was leading.
Then, the rumors started. Although we have been very very careful, people started telling things about us. The fact that we were intimate, that we were having an A. We just laughed it off and denied the whole thing. I admitted to my H that we had kissed, and that I had an emotional connection with him very strongly, but that nothing intimate had happened. With what was going on between the H and I, he understood that he had driven me into someone else's life - even if it was just for emotional support. He was ok on believing that, but others at work actually started going to our family members and telling them about it (the H's and my family members). It got huge - big blow up.
H now says he still believes me when I say I didn't get intimate with the OM. Family and friends have kinda calmed down, now that I have left my H and we are apart, but they still look at me as having an A...but H isn't listening to them. There were only certain people that knew what was going on - three great friends that the OM and I have (and they are trusted) and the OM's family (mom, dad, sis, bro, etc). Other than that, no one ever saw anything but hanging out alot, and being flirtatious...maybe we had been caught kissing. I don't think so, because we were always so careful, but I figured I'd at least own up to that to my H just in case.
Deny girl, and never bend. Don't let the rumors (even if they really are true) get you down or ruin this. They just don't have anything in their life exciting to talk about :-) lol Good luck, and remember that you wouldn't be in such an emotional relationship/affair if it wasn't worth something. FMH6
Lucky