Does anyone worry afterwards?

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Does anyone worry afterwards?
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:32am
Does anyone else worry that your other person is going to get caught after you are intitmate or worry that he/she won't want to continue the relationship? Here I go obsessing again...but, MM and I have a great night on Sunday - a little afternoon delight yesterday (normally we don't get two days in a row together) I called him yesterday late he couldn't talk and now I am worrying that he's had enough! (Why?? - I have no idea!) Am I obsessing again or just insecure? I always worry more about him getting caught than me!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:56am
Try not to worry. It's HIS job to not get himself caught, not yours. Hang in there!

KC
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:56am
Oh yeah, thats me. I do it quite a bit. But what I do after something like that is I go into a NC mode. I just don't call him for a few days so he "gets over it" if he is bothered by what I did. He also seems more open and happy when I DO call again. I don't worry about him getting found out, mainly because the situation is such that he isn't put in any position to be found out. I on the other hand have to worry about covering my tracks a lot more than he does.

Just cool it for a few days, it'll be fine

deedee

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Registered: 04-16-2004
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 8:56am
I agree with kc.....it is his job to cover his tracks.
cl-noregretsyet (co-cl of MAS board)
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:14am
Chiming in to agree with the others...his job, not yours, to deflect and prevent suspicion.

But...I do what I can to minimize it. I don't often wear scented lotions, powders, or sprays. I respect the times when I can't call him, even if what I need to tell him is important - it will just have to wait. If it's work related and can't wait until the next day (we have on-call jobs), then I put on my best business voice, chat with the g/f a moment and say, I'm really sorry to disturb you guys, but I have a quick thing that M needs to know before he goes in tomorrow.

The problem we have is his DOG!!!! His DOG knows when he's been with me, lol!!! He always has to take a shower before g/f gets home so the dog will stop sniffing him. ROFLMAO!!!

Lucky