? Does the apple fall far from the tree
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| Fri, 05-14-2004 - 2:18pm |
Many times I wonder if my view of A's changed, albeit subconsciously, after I found out about Dad. This was very traumatic for me, even though I was grown, married and a mother myself. I worked w/ MM for 6 years and never once felt an attraction for him, or him for me as far as I know. We WERE great friends and enjoyed working together. I know w/out a doubt that had I been approached then my answer would have been a resounding NO!!! Now, obviously, my answer is different. I have thought many times that "I am just like my Dad,' and the saying about the 'apple not falling far from the tree' is more true than we like to think. I also wonder if my change in thinking, ie: that an A is the absolute worst sin ever to actually being involved in one myself, was possible because my Dad did it?
So, do any of you think that having a parent who had/is having an affair somehow causes us to view having an affair ourselves in a different light? Maybe we justify it and say it is ok for ourselves partly in part because of that (consciously or subconsciously)? Or are we predisposed, much like children of alcoholics to be alcoholics themsleves, to have an A?

Doesn't that make sense?
Virgogirl